DH, DS and Xbox.

[tory79]

Dh thinks nothing of putting the Xbox on and playing for ages on halo while ds (14 months) is toddling round sting in the lounge. (we don't have a playroom - that's where all his toys are) I HATE it. I know ds doesn't 'understand' but it feels so wrong to me. Dh thinks its fine and I'm just trying to be annoying and previous.

AIBU?

[YuffieKisaragi]

There's morning wrong with gaming (so speaketh another "loser" with a "loser" OH...) but spending all day on it when kids are around is not good. Halo is not massively violent but that's by the by really, his attention is focused elsewhere.
We have our gaming time once DCs are in bed, or we play with ds1 (age appropriate games, he's not one of those kids who plays COD or GTA) sometimes if Ds2 is napping.

[GhostShip]

pickled I'm also eating biscuits, and having the odd sip of stella. Go me?

[PickledFanjoCat]

Good multi tasking for a loser!

[GhostShip]

We're all losers then :D

Right now I'm on the xbox, watching tv on the ipad, and typing on here on the ol' macbook. I must be an uber loser!!! Least I'm a multitasking one :o

[InNeedOfBrandy]

I lovemy PS3 guess that makes me a loser to right! Even though there is no difference betweenplaying ps3 or wasting hours on MN

Meh I probably am not the usual on here, me and my dc love playing GTA and killing people so I wouldn't have a problem.

[BertieBotts]

DeathMetal that's because she knows you will actually respond and pay attention to her. I've seen the way that DCs respond to a dad who's totally engrossed in a game and won't acknowledge them (as a general rule when gaming) - they ignore them back as though they aren't there :( It's very sad.

[PickledFanjoCat]

I agree with only playing when ds is in bed.

The thing is they start playing games so young as well now, so it won't be long before he wants to play too.

Especially if it's bloodthirsty.

[Cortana]

DP and I are huge gamers. Absolute losers too obviously.

DS plays some age appropriate games but we wouldn't play games that weren't suitable for him around him. Same as a violent film.

(Btw - I play Halo online in a group with my friends, it's social and involves teamwork and strategy so ner-ner. No worse than me being on MN when DS is in a bed)

[StuntGirl]

Problem is, where do you draw the line? At what point do you decide they're aware enough, or paying enough attention to warrant turning it off? And by the point they understand what they're watching it's too late.

That's why I think you shouldn't play age rated games in front of kids. OP YANBU.

[GhostShip]

Me and my DP are far from nerdy, but we both play games. We work hard and its a good way to unwind :)

[DeathMetalMum]

Both me and dh are gamers, however we like different types. Neither of us play while dc is about (occasionally something on our phones that she doesnt notice). Though he does get time to play them once or twice a week while me and dd are out at groups, as he doesn't work 9to5.

I don't understand how he can play with a 14 month old he would have no chance with our dd. She would be climbing all over trying to get the controller etc.

[MrsCantSayAnything]

I even sneer at the term "gamer" it sounds so...nerdy.

[GhostShip]

Any adult who plays any sort of computer game is a loser in my book

Well 69% of americans are losers in your book. The average age for a gamer is 33.

[BlueberryHill]

We don't watch horror films whilst the children are awake (or at all really) and I would put COD / Halo in that category. He should wait until your DC is in bed.

I think that the sad / loser comments are really judgemental, everyone has hobbies / interests that others don't understand, including those calling others losers. I understand the gaming bug, played puzzle / platform games before DC (and then had no time whatsoever grrr) and there is a skill to it and it can be really addicitive. Its just another way to unwind.

[MrsCantSayAnything]

It IS a bit sad for a grown man to sit mindlessly killing fake people on a computer or whatever. it just is.

[VonHerrBurton]

Trifle was a bit harsh with the 'loser' comment, but tbh, if my DH would rather sit twiddling with an Xbox than play with our DS I would find that a bit weird. And teenager-like. Sorry.

playing for ages on Halo

[fuzzpig]

Any adult who plays any sort of computer game is a loser in my book.

I'm glad I'm not the only one to be about that! Nothing wrong with a bit of gaming (though I can't stand COD etc myself due to violence - prefer puzzle/platform etc) if it is just a hobby! No more mindless than watching a bit of telly surely.

But playing violent games for hours on end, when your little one is able to see it, rather than actually interacting with said child, yes of course that makes you a total loser, IMO.

[mrskeithrichards]

I do watch horrors during the day when ds1 is at school and it's just me and 6m old snuggled up.

[DrWhoBrain]

dont see the big deal tbh your ds is too young to be aware of anything as long as their is no bad language. Dh plays any of his games while ds 13 months is playing nearby but not if ds1 who is 7 is around as he IS aware.

[BertieBotts]

Neither DP or myself play age-rated games (above a PG or 7) around DS. It's always been the rule even when I was with XP and DS was under 1.

You wouldn't watch a violent horror film with them in the room, so why would you play inappropriate games?

Your DP sounds selfish, though. Nothing to do with computer games - he could be just as selfish if he had another all-consuming hobby (or addiction - they can be addictive) which he pursued to the exclusion of all else.

[KenLeeeeeee]

YANBU, even at 14/15 months a baby will absorb what's going on around him or her. Violent movies and/or games are a no-no in this house while kids are around.

[Tryharder]

YANBU. I would not be happy if DH played any kind of violent computer game let alone in front of our toddler.

[FobblyWoof]

DP has an xbox and to be honest he very rarely plays it when DD is awake and when he does violent games are an absolute no-no. She's 9 months and this has been in effect from when she was a few months old.

[MikeLitoris]

Any adult who plays any sort of computer game is a loser in my book

what an idiotic comment.

Op if you dont have somewhere else the xbox can be set up then he should be waiting until ds is in bed.