in hating the post parents evening - bragging by some parents?

[bigmouthstrikesagain]

I understand that if little Jonny is in all the top sets you are going to be overjoyed to hear that - but don't bloody stealth brag/ interogate my dd in the playground by asking her "Are you in all the top sets like [little Jonny] is [bigmouth dd1]?" after I have failed to relate the precise details of dd progress when you ask. She/he is doing fine is the most I will say in general sfter my kids parent's evenings and that is all I want to hear from others really.

Fortunately dd answered by saying she had been in rectangle which she hated but now she is in spheres which is ok and that enlightened little Jonny's mum not one bit.

I also hate the 'My little star is doing so well- just been to parents evening - proud mummy!!' style fb updates. I just am not comfortable with it especially from parents I like and thought were beyong that sort of braggy-ness.

Or am I being a sourpuss?

[DeWe]

Dd1 used to dance with a girl whose dm was convinced that her dds were brilliant. One day her #1 had got her reading book out of her bag, and another girl picked it up.
"Don't worry," this girl's mum said. "You won't be able to read it. Dd is a very advanced reader, she's on the top table."
Looks of round the room from other mothers as we knew there was no way she could know how good a reader the other child was (different schools and all that)

My dd2 (two years younger) walked across, looked at the book and without having listened to the conversation proclaimed in ringing tones "I had that book last week for my reading book." (and then proceeded to relate the story to her friend, thus proving she had too)

All done in one sweet sentence. A great put down, and I didn't even need to do my own boasting.

(actually it wasn't that impressive a book, so I was a little surprised the dm thought it was worth waving around)

[youarewinning]

YANBU.

However my DS is brilliant at handling these situations. No-one asks anymore since they were 6yo and 1 mum bought it up in the playground. DS got verbal dioherrea and annouced (something along the lines of)...............

"yes Johnnie is doing well in English because I'm in the bottom group and have help and he's in the group above me. I am in top maths group and Johnnie is the group below me but I'm above average so he's still doing well. I don't mind about Johnnie being better at English than me because Mrs X says I work really hard. I thinks its better that I never lose my golden time like Johnnie always does and I never need shouting at even though he's better at English"

[simonedeboudoir]

YANBU at all. At all. I hate that behaviour in parents.

We're all proud of our children. Who all have their own talents, strengths and interests

Try not to let it annoy you. Bragging is a sign of deep insecurity

[echt]

While I agree that the noseying into other parents' DCs' progress is not on, I don't see why they shouldn't crow about their own DC on Facebook. Isn't that what it's for?

Disclaimer: I do not have a Facebook account.

[gordyslovesheep]

I think if you see being proud of your kids as bragging that also shows a level of insecurity :) :) :) :)

At least it makes a change for FB posts about Bejeweled Blitz or 'funny' cats

FB is full of inane drivel

[bigmouthstrikesagain]

I think I just find FB updates about kids - generally - a bit dull. I would rather read ones about the person and what they are doing, current affairs, stupid links to amusing stories and music releases,gigs etc. - but that is a personal preference. I tend to hide all the boring/ twee updaters and they probably hide mine too much wierd music

[Spatsky]

I have a Facebook friend that actually typed out her daughters report comments word for word into her status. That was going a tad far IMO.