AIBUs your Grandma might have written...

[lakeofshiningwaters]

Not sure if this has been done before, but just thinking about a famous-in-our-family story when I was reading the baby names thread made me wonder what if mumsnet had been around when our grandparents were parents...

AIBU to be cross with my DH for giving ds2 a completely different name to the one we had chosen. I packed him off to register little one this morning calling baby Alan. He came home telling me 'This isn't Alan, I've picked a new name'. A name he'd found in a book someone left behind on the bus! Noone's going to be able to spell it either . Do I need some mumsnet perspective here, or AIB reasonable to want to string him up by his winkle tie?

PS Use of word winkle to stop Nana spinning in her grave. In RL she would've used a much much different one

[Lolwhut]

TyrionTheImp amazing post. Thanks for posting it.

Actually there are a lot of amazing posts in this thread. It really makes you think.

[heather1980]

My Gm: AIBU to not go to my DD wedding as i don't approve of her Dh, he is the son of a farmer, even though i am married to a farmer myself. am i also being BU to never speak to my DD again but to rock up and try and kidnap her 2 dds from the childminders when dd is in the hospital with her dying husband?
bitch

[lovebunny]

aibu to marry this man i had sex with on the first night i met him, because i had to catch him before he found out most of my brothers and my dad died of tuberculosis that one of them caught in the trenches, and no-one else in the village will touch me? this man who will look under the bathroom door to see his brother's wife undress, and who will abuse at least one of my daughters? this man who will lie as easily as if the truth had no value at all? but who will still have on his conscience at the age of eighty-nine, that in canada in the depression, in desperation, he stole a horse to use to work his farm?

of course, my wider family are the local moneylenders and hardmen so people are a bit wary of me, apart from the tb. and my mother is a wisewoman, if you know what i mean.

so i'd better marry him, hadn't i? not much future for me if i don't. i was top of my class in school but i went to the mill at thirteen, in my clogs and shawl. there's not much for women in this life, is there? even rudi valentino's dead now.

[larks35]

From my maternal DGM - WIBU to tell my youngest "sister-in-law" that she is really my niece?

In actual fact it was only when her older sister Aunty was dying that my Great Aunt second cousin Claire was told that her real mother was actually the person she'd thought was her oldest sister, who emigrated to Australia back in 1930s. Aunty Claire was 64 at this point and furious, but did visit her half-brother and all his descendents. I think she made peace in the end, but it must have been awful for her. She was a midwife, never married, strict Catholic. Now she had some stories...

[Fluffycloudland77]

(Suspect I'm related to LemonBreeland).

GGM would have still been alive when Jason born early 1980s.

[TigerStripe]

AIBU to think my boss should not have asked me to remove my wedding ring when I go to work?

Tis true. My grandmother, who was born in 1900, worked for an MP. When she married my grandfather the MP said that he would love her to continue to work for him but she'd have to remove her wedding ring when at work as it wasn't the done thing to be working once married

[lovebunny]

@larks35 - strange, but i think i'm teaching a child in a similar situation. 'sister' was pregnant in school - i taught her and i saw it. she then took a good while off, coming back only for exams. i saw her on the bus with a baby. she looked at me and said aggressively 'its me brother!' well, he might have been. or not. never saw her without him, for a few years after that. now, he's coming to lessons.

[lovebunny]

tyriontheimp, just read your post and i'm crying...

[larks35]

lovebunny, I hope that while his family are trying to hide the truth from everyone else, they don't hide it from him. Unnecessary now really. When Aunty Claire was born in the 1920s, in a strict Catholic community, it was the only thing to do really, apart from sending mum and child to a workhouse.

[lovebunny]

i know, its weird. i work in the inner city, where you think no-one would care. but it seems to have happened. perhaps i'm wrong.

[CrikeyOHare]

I'm not sure which topic my grandma would have posted this in, maybe relationships?

"Please help. My two little daughters aged 5 & 7 were killed by a bus crossing the road while I was newly pregnant with my 3rd daughter. Now that my new daughter is here, I just cannot bond with her at all, and it's causing upset between me and my husband".

The new baby was my mum & they never bonded at all :(

[saffronwblue]

My maternal grandfather.

I'm off to the Great War! A long way by ship from South Australia to France but I am sure it will be a lark when I get there! AIBU to break off my engagement before I go? I want to do the hoourable thing and don't want her to have to be tied to me if the Hun cripple me.

He did break off the engagement but when he returned 4 years later, miraculously unharmed, they reunited, married and had 4 children.

[saffronwblue]

Paternal grandmother.
DH has died suddenly. Although he was a bank manager he never showed me how to pay a bill or write a cheque. Can some kind MNer explain how it all works, please?

[lovebunny]

@crikey - perhaps she couldn't risk it.

[CrikeyOHare]

Love Yes, I think that was it.

[ThreeForTea]

Ggm: aibu to serve my dc's their 'pet' bunny for supper?
(ggf brought it home alive and let family play with it, name it, put a bow round its neck etc, little did they know! Don't think they enjoyed that dinner very much! 1940s family fun :)

Gm: wibu to send my baby back home to the west Indies for my mother to raise because we were struggling here in London? Now he's 9 we can afford a house but also have two other children. Ds1 thinks his gp are his parents and his aunts and uncles are his brothers and sisters, we haven't seen him in that time at all. Aibu to want to send for him to come back now? Wwyd?
(ds1 came back but always felt like an outsider in his family, and don't think dgm has ever forgiven herself for sending him in the first place)

[Bellyjaby]

From my great uncle:

It my nephews 50th, and I've always resented him (first grandson so adored by dm). Was I bu to announce to everyone the he wasn't wanted - his parents were married 10 yrs before his birth, had no others and he was born 9 months after VE day.

[imissmygranny]

(NC as these are instantly recognisable to family :)

These would be just a few of my grandmother's many AIBUs ..

AIBU for earning myself 28 days confined to barracks for throwing an ink-well at the major for making a pass at me?

AIBU for walking out of school and refusing to go back after the nuns told me Princesses Elizabdeth & Margaret (during the coronation) wouldn't go to heaven because they weren't Catholic?

AIBU for getting a postman to help me start my husband's new car so that I can drive it even though I have never driven before? (I'll later go on to drive on a racetrack)

AIBU for discharging myself against medical advice a week after major surgery because they keep getting cross that I'm walking to the shop to buy
my newspaper?

She was a thoroughly unreasonable and amazing woman

[BombusBombus]

AIBU to feed the evacuees rabbit for dinner and tell them it's underground chicken?

[MamaBear17]

My dad did that with me. My mum had an EMCS and was knocked out (as was the custom 30 years ago). Dad registered me whilst she was still under anaesthetic! She woke up to find that there was a baby next to her. She asked the nurse whose baby it was, the nurse replied 'its sarah, your baby'. My mum then asked who Sarah was, only to be told that Sarah was her baby. Mum then asked if shed had a girl, 'yes' came the reply, 'Sarah'. Leaving my mum sat there in total confusion saying 'but if it was a girl we were going to call her Natalie........' No wonder my poor mum had PND!

[Proudnscary]

AIBU to wash my hair with Fairy Liquid and throw away the abundance of rhubarb in my garden because 'it's a weed'?

[sashh]

Not my grandmother, but someone I worked with's great gran.

We are currently working overseass as missionaries, our ds (7) is at boarding school in England and will be visiting us for the summer. I think he is quite old enough to get the train to the steamer and then the trans siberian express, we will meet him from the train in Beijing.

He will have cash to tip the porters to carry his trunk. Dh thinks he needs an adult with him until he is 12. AIBU to think a 7 year old who knows the route will be perfectly fine?

Another one

AIBU to think my mother should just give me permission to marry? I'm two months pregnant. My fiance says he will go to court and get permission from the judge but surely he shouldn't have to.

[LemonBreeland]

Fluffy this Jason was born in the 60's. Funny that there is more than one story like that.

[Graceparkhill]

No grannies in my life but Great Aunty born in 1895.

Her post would go in Style and Beauty.

My sister Grace and I went to church today in our new hobble skirts. Our father was furious for bringing shame on the famiiy with such provocative dress and has locked us in our room.

How can we persuade him that the latest Paris fashions have travelled to rural Perthshire ?

[LadyLetch]

Another birth certificate one here.

My nan sent my grandad off to register my aunt's birth with the chosen name 'Katherine'. Unfortunately, the registrar misheard my grandfather and registered the child as 'Kathleen'. My grandad was too embarrassed / shy to correct him do my aunt has been lumbered with Kathleen all her life! My nan has never forgiven him for that . It only happened over 50 years ago now.

Still, to make amends I now have a Katherine, and every time I call her by her full name, my nan always points out what a lovely name Katherine is and how much nicer it is than the awful Kathleen my poor aunt ended up with. You'd think after 50 years she'd let it go.