AIBUs your Grandma might have written...

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Not sure if this has been done before, but just thinking about a famous-in-our-family story when I was reading the baby names thread made me wonder what if mumsnet had been around when our grandparents were parents...

AIBU to be cross with my DH for giving ds2 a completely different name to the one we had chosen. I packed him off to register little one this morning calling baby Alan. He came home telling me 'This isn't Alan, I've picked a new name'. A name he'd found in a book someone left behind on the bus! Noone's going to be able to spell it either . Do I need some mumsnet perspective here, or AIB reasonable to want to string him up by his winkle tie?

PS Use of word winkle to stop Nana spinning in her grave. In RL she would've used a much much different one

MGGM, Should I be miffed that looking at my wedding photo with the wedding party I notice my new DH his holding hands with me?

Whoops sorry, holding hands with me and my chief Bridesmaid!!!

MGGF married said Bridesmaid after my MGGM death some 40 odd years later.

MGGGF am I being unreasonable to be shouting Hail Hitler in the street? I love my fatherland and I do think he is our Savior, Also I think the RAF are BVUR bombing Germany, if they hadn't the Luftwaffe would not have had to retaliate, which resulted in the bombing of my home and the death of my wife.

MGGGF would it be UR to send my GS into my unstable bombed to home to retrieve my gold sovereigns from under the floorboards?

MGF I have decided to get married but not to my GF of 3 years, hints have been made by both families that it is becoming indecent the amount of time we have been courting, so I have studied my options and decided my secretary is more wifely material, after all she does what I ask, anyway my UR dumping my GF by arranging to meet my GF and the cinema and sending my best friend instead, then when they watch the film together I will accuse her of having an affair and finishing with her, thus ruining her reputation!

not a nice family DM was from, she was a star as was GM.

My nannies would be, aibu to have wanted my husband there the birth?

I recently gave birth to my 3rd child, at home in the front bedroom. Me and him both wanted him to be in the room but the Midwife said it wasn't proper for men to be there. I told the silly bitch that as he'd got me pregnant 3 times, it's not like he's never seen me naked! She still refused to let him in

Then a few years later, she'd have done: aibu to think that actually this is a name!

Recently gave birth to DC5, and wanted to register her name as Jo. Stupid woman aid she couldn't be Jo on her birth certificate as it's not a 'real' name, only a diminutive! Made us register her as Joanne, even though we don't like that name

(note, My auntie is not really called Jo/Joanne, thought I'd better change it just in case) k

Incidentally, my Nannie I'd allays moaning about the 'made up names' people use these days. She thinks we should all just use 'proper' names (like Joanne maybe)

Well I know everything to do with the house is women's work, but when I've got the flu and hubby offers to make me a cup of cocoa for the first time since we've been married, AIBU to expect a nice cup of cocoa instead of.....bloomin' gravy browning?

AIBU NOT to divorce my DH? I am a staunch catholic and I know he has another woman and children in the same small town we live in. He spends half his time with her and half with us. I often leave my five children alone at night to go looking for him.

He divorced her in the end but she considered herself his wife till the day she died .

Current one from my Gran...

AIBU to be glad my DGD and her partner are going to call my DGGS a sensible name? I can't abide these fancy modern names, like Darren!

We struggled to keep straight faces when she came out with that one

AIBU to wish my DGD would cook her husband a decent meal every night? I mean, he works hard every day and she just flits around an office all day. I think he should not have to come home, see to the children, the housework and the dinner. Why can't she be a proper wife!

And yes, my man said that to me. Yesterday.

*nan, even.

'AIBU to expect DH to come and bail me out after I got arrested yesterday instead of leaving me in a police cell overnight?'
GGM was a suffragette and got arrested for breach of the peace

AIBU to ask DH and neighbours not to let the nuns know when I'm in labour? The midwives are happy for me to have some form of pain relief but those bitches keep telling me I'm not alone and must atone for my sins.

Pgm -Aibu to refuse to allow my new dil into my kitchen when I am in it? I know she has a newborn and thy have to sleep in the lounge. It's also a problem that to use the loo she has to go through the kitchen to get outside. Can I ask her to wait until I am finished? My son married her and she was in an orphanage and she is illegitimate. Disgusting.

Also, one of my dds is prg by a gi - he keeps coming round and shouting up at the window he loves her, but i threw a bucket of boiling water over him, so hopefully he will push off back to America now. ( he did) cant have my dd marrying some foreigner...

MGM AIBU to go out looking to get pregnant? I'm 35 and unmarried, all I want is a baby girl of my own.

She did, had my Mum at 36, and then met and married my Grampy when Mum was 8.

My great granny:

Aibu to tie a bell round ds neck so I know where he is at all times?

My great grandmother:

AIBU to refuse to marry young as is expected. The Great War has begun and I want to train as a midwife instead. My family is aghast.

I'm 30 now and I've met a man, also in his 30s. People are horrified we plan to marry and have dc at this geriatric age. WIBU to do it?

WIBU to tell the hospital staff to "go away" when they suggested I stick my ds2 in a home and forget about him due to his Down's Syndrome and what will probably turn out to be v significant SNs. They say he'd be better off in an institution. I think I can offer him a rich and full life.

AIBU to forever hate August 3rd. It's the day I had my beautiful dd, but also the day she choked to death on a fishbone, eating her 3rd birthday dinner.

AIBU to rage endlessly at the coal board. My dh has been killed in the pit due to faulty equipment. They're refusing any pension.

AIBU to think that after 5yrs of fighting the system, the meagre offer of £2 a week for 15 years or until I die, whichever comes sooner, is poor compensation for my dh's death and will leave me penniless with two children, one with severe extra needs to think of.

AIBU to be humbled by the fact that since the court ruled I would never be allowed a full pension, not a single trader or businessman in our tiny mining community has ever accepted a penny from me. I will still die penniless and live with my ds1 until I die at 93 (with my much adored ds with Down's still healthy and thriving in his 60s btw) but the community will never take a penny from me.

WIBU to start holding Labour Party meetings in my front room, whilst also campaigning for the Miners Union so that no woman ever goes through this again?

Formidable and wonderful woman she was. I still have a tinny recording of her singing to me as a baby. She was a proud, fierce woman.

DH's great grandmother:

AIBU to be secretly pleased my abusive dh has been at war for 6yrs with absolutely no contact? Unfortunately, the lovely GI I met and had a baby with has been sent back to America. I suspect my dh will be very angry when he returns (she had to drive the little boy- aged 2 -to the children's home the day he returned. It was, and I quote 'me or that bastard'. She cried all the way there and declared she would never cry again and we knew nothing about that day until 3yrs ago when her baby boy, now almost 70, got back in touch to tell her he never blamed her. They are in regular touch).

My Grandma:

AIBU to be cross that the hospital are telling me I'm imagining my waters breaking, I'm in a lot of pain.

It's been 3 days now, wibu to go to the hospital and demand they help me. The pains are still there but I think something's wrong.

It's 5 days later. My tiny scrap of a baby seems to be unwell. They've said it would be kinder not to feed her. I'm bfing round the clock. They don't approve.

She's 18mo now, still bf. She has brain damage, is profoundly deaf and has complex physical and emotional needs. But she's beautiful and I am still refusing to put her in a home for hopeless cases as they refer to it.

AIBU to be proud of my dd? She's 62yrs old now and living in a house for the first time, away from me but with a team of round the clock carers and 3 friends with similar levels of need. Her life is very full.

DH's grandma:

AIBU to be so horrified by what happened on my wedding night that when I've had 3 dc in quick succession, I'll insist on separate beds and never touch dh again. My mother said he'd but his down belows in my ear and I've never gotten over what really happened.

Not a Grandparent but a Great Aunt

"AIBU to feel really lonely during the German Occupation as all the men, including my DF, are at war. I have been seeing a really lovely man, he's only 19 (like me) and treats me like a queen. We are so in love and want to be together. Problem is that he is a German Soldier"

My paternal Nan:

My DS and some bitch he knocked up are getting married and not inviting anyone. AIBU to get dressed in my finest and stalk them on their wedding day to find out where their nuptuals are?

Tyrion- your post made me cry, thank God things have changed. So much for the good old days.

AIBU to celebrate my two eldest children's birthdays two months late, so they are not so close to Christmas?

[My mum was 8 when he discovered that she and her brothers were two months older than they thought]

AIBU to announce that I am an old lady now I am 50. I no longer need to look after children or want to drive, and will spend the rest of my days going to coffee mornings, drinking gin and getting my hair done.

[Ha! Two generations later, when I am 50 I will have a 9 year old!]

I researched my family tree when dd was tiny. It filled the 98,648 hours of exclusive feeding. I found some terrible, terrible stories. It all started because I had been given a locket which is a family heirloom. I had a photo and a lock of hair in it and all my Grandma knew was that it was Great Aunt Esther. I was determined to find her. Turns out she got married aged 19, had 2 babies, died of tuberculosis when her 2nd was 8 months. He then died of TB aged 3 and her pfb was killed on the Somme 14yrs later. I carefully took the locket apart and found an inscription to her dc, written after she died. It sparked a real obsession in me. The tales of workhouses, affairs, neonatal deaths, massive families, abuse, corruption etc are endless. And that's one family. I found the cemetery most of my relatives are buried in. There's a row of 14 graves in one place. All children, ranging from stillborn to 15. Nearly all TB. Odd measles case, one accident. All the same generation.

AIBU I have only one daughter, so its not my fault that she has to stay at home and miss school to look after her younger brothers . i am also in labour with my 5 child and who else is going to follow me around the house putting newspaper on the floor to mop up my waters?

AIBU in telling my 4th child all his life that he was the one that ripped me apart in labour! he came out feet first at 9lbs!

AIBU in telling my husband that the rubbers the clinic gave me wont work if he wears them with the top cut off? I dont care that it doenst feel the same for him! I think i am pregnant with baby n6!

AIBU in being ashamed that I am having my 8th child at 52? I thought it was the change! what will the neighbours think! No one has sex past 40 these days!

AIBU to complain to my sons that the metal studs in their jeans are ruining my mangle?

AIBU to tell my DGD to stop complaining about the taste of the warm milk and gin cure for period pains? (to this day i cant stand gin!)

AIBU about putting stork marge on my DGD's burn on her arm. i dont she really did hear her skin sizzle!

AIBU to flinch in disgust when DGD says she is going to breastfeed her baby pass 3 months? everyone knows they need to go on cows milk with boiled millet to make them sleep through the night. Next she will be refusing the warm brandy on a teaspoon for babies wind! HA HA!

AIBU to be pissed off that my children have to separated from me because of the war?

My GM - Parenting/AIBU to put my 2 year old son into a bright red jumper, put him over the gate at the end of the garden and let him wander? I can see for miles out of the kitchen window across Romney Marsh, I'll always be able to see him.

My Dad always speaks of this really fondly, swears he can remember it - and credits his interest in nature and plants to it!

All MGGm

Is my DH being UR? He has joined up to fight in this war (WW1) cos he says he doesn't want to lose face with his brothers (who have also signed up). We have 3 children and one on the way. (This one was my Nan, who was born nov 1914. She didn't see her father until she was 4, when he returned home. He had been gassed and was in and out of hospital for the next 11 years, until he died. They did have 2 more children though!)

Wibu to give my kids onion sarnies for dinner? That's all i have in (widow's pension is abominable!)

WIbu to keep one of my DD's off school to me look after my youngest 2? I already feel guilty cos she passed her scholarship exam, but i can't afford for her to stay in school.

Are my sisters BU or am i? They are a lot older than me and brought me from age 7 (my mum died having me and my nan looked after me til 7 when she died). They have never married and run a shop that our dad got them. they want one of my DD's to go and live with them, and say they will happily take care of her. They are better off than us (DH is ill, and can only work off and on, and we have 5 others and one more on the way) and i know they will look after her. She really likes them and wouldn't mind going to live there, but she is really good with the younger one, and is a great help in the house. I want her to stay at home. (again this was my nan)

AIBU to expect all the nosy buggers in my village to stop talking about me having a baby out of wedlock. It's not my fault DP died over France on a bombing mission before we could marry.

My DGM would have written that. Thankfully, her DM was a battle axe who protected her from the worst of it. I have never forgotten her talking about being in the WAAF and counting the planes back, knowing someone had died.

DHs Granny: AIBU to tel DIL (my MIL) thst Jason is a dogs name and should not name DGS2 this name.

I hope she would have got flamed. MIL picked a name out of a book with a pin for DH (it's a pretty crap name too). fwiw he has never met a dog called Jason.