AIBUs your Grandma might have written...

[lakeofshiningwaters]

Not sure if this has been done before, but just thinking about a famous-in-our-family story when I was reading the baby names thread made me wonder what if mumsnet had been around when our grandparents were parents...

AIBU to be cross with my DH for giving ds2 a completely different name to the one we had chosen. I packed him off to register little one this morning calling baby Alan. He came home telling me 'This isn't Alan, I've picked a new name'. A name he'd found in a book someone left behind on the bus! Noone's going to be able to spell it either . Do I need some mumsnet perspective here, or AIB reasonable to want to string him up by his winkle tie?

PS Use of word winkle to stop Nana spinning in her grave. In RL she would've used a much much different one

[Fuchzia]

Maternal GM: Aibu to think the woman next door might be secretly working! she leaves every morning with her shopping bags, but I know her husband drinks and doesn't give her any money. Disappointed because I though this was a naice area and naice women don't work..

Paternal GM: Aibu to think that I should not be expected to deliver a baby when in labour myself? I know there's and air raid on and I'm a nurse, but still.

[NeverKnowinglyUnderstood]

paternal GM,
AIBU to let my 10 year old boys ride around the field behind the the digger that has been left there by the builders, they are having such fun, I have taken a picture from our window but don't want to disturb their game.

(DH watched where the foreman had hidden the crank handle and went out to play after they all went home!!!)

[Bellyjaby]

Not one from my Granny, but a Great Aunt:

AIBU to have a go at all these youngsters having kids out of wedlock when my own DD has no clue who her father is as I hooked up with a random POW?

[Noqontrol]

She had the baby adopted casey One of the doctors who delivered the baby adopted her, as he and his wife couldn't have children. She died recently aged about 90, and never saw her baby again since that day.

[ElephantsAndMiasmas]

AIBU to disagree with my husband when he suggests that it would be "nice" to move OW in with us and our children?

[Naoko]

From my grandmother (alive and kicking today, age 86): "AIBU to tell my DD that she can go to university if she wants to, even though we're only dairy farmers, DH and I only had primary school ourselves, it'll be a financial struggle and we live in the kind of village where the only girls who even go to academic secondary schooling, never mind uni, are the daughters of the doctor, the vicar and the lawyer? I also have 3 DS, it'd be socially odd for us to send them but it'd be outrageous to send DD. She is so smart though, she works really hard and she loves learning; none of the boys will even want to go. DH agrees with me and says we'll make the money work somehow, but we had so many comments in the village when she went to secondary, people say it's pointless to educate a girl because she'll just go off and marry. "

(No, granny, you weren't unreasonable, and I love you and your progressive attitude. Mum didn't go in the end because she didn't want to put the financial burden on them, but she could have - and did something even more socially outrageous in moving 3 hours away, age 17, to work a secretarial training contract with a multinational company).


From the same grandparents: "Are DH and I BU to have helped the Australian airman whose plane was shot down by the Germans over our farm? We weren't able to hide him so they did take him away, but we got him out of his parachute and made sure he was ok. We might get in trouble with the Germans, some of DH's cousins are in the resistance and have been taken away by soldiers, but the Australians are trying to liberate our country and it's not right to just leave him."

(The airman in question survived the war, is still alive and fast approaching his hundreth birthday. He still writes to them.)

[TunipTheVegemal]

AIBU to not want my beloved ds1 to marry the woman who he got pregnant? She has shown she's no better than he ought to be by the fact that she allowed him to get her pregnant when they aren't married yet. So she's clearly not good enough for my wonderful son.

[TunipTheVegemal]

I know there's a war on but AIBU to want to leave my job at the munitions factory because the other girls there are a bit rough and some of them even swear?

[Moominsarescary]

Someone my nana and grandad were at school with, AIBU to take the very expensive watch my dad has bought me on the condition I don't marry the girl I've got pregnant?

He took the watch

[McHappyPants2012]

AIBU to want some support:-

i am a mum of 3 disabled boys who are terminally ill and i am struggling to do this all by myself. My husband has to work very long hours to make ends meet on top of this i have 3 DD.

[KatieScarlett2833]

AIBU to resent Hitler for forcing my DH to work overseas in very unsanitary conditions, while I stay at home with my 5 young children (one of my DD's is blind) and have to work in a munitions factory part time to make ends meet?

[Caerlaverock]

I have consumption which Swiss sanatorium has the hottest doctors?

[Birdsgottafly]

I have rented a large house for myself and four children, after being abandoned by my DH.

I am trying to run it as a boarding house (without the landlord's permission), but it is very hard work, that and looking after my disabled parents.

I have noticed that the 'working girls' are suffering at the hands of the punters and the conditions that they have to 'work' in and when recovering from having their 'stomach's cleared'.

WIBU to have an 'arrangement' with them, which would include me looking after them when they 'need to rest', which would benefit us all?

[Bellyjaby]

GM1: AIBU to keep rubbing my sister's nose in the fact that she only had a girl whereas I had a boy (especially considering I'm the least maternal person ever)

GM2: AIBU to not remember my children's actual birthdays or names. DS1 and DD1 seem to think, as they're the two eldest, I should at least be able to remember one of them properly.

re GM2 comment, my poor mum grew up thinking she had a completely different middle name and birth date to reality. She only found out when she required a birth certificate for something at 18 years old. And when I say different birthday, Mum grew up thinking her birthday was in October when in fact it was early September.

[Binkyridesagain]

AIBU to tell DH has gone too far this time?
He Is very obsessed with his hair, constantly worried about it falling out and him going bald, he has tried every hair tonic on the market to ensure that he does not lose any.
Last night we were watching the news and there was an item about some people who work with chickens, it appears that these workers where growing excess hair on there hands, they attributed this hair growth to the chicken shit.
DH purchased some fresh shit this morning and is now sleeping in our marital bed wearing a bag on his head to stop any of the shit that he has spread thickly on his hair, staining my pillow cases.
Whilst I appreciate the thought regarding my pillows, AIBU in thinking that chicken shit is a step too far?

[AnitaBlake]

AIBU to change my sons name about a year after he was born, send him to live with his GPs and let him think they are his parents while I start a new family and call one of my sons the name I changed DSs to? (maternal ggm)

AIBU to run home to show my mum the click I won her at the dance hall despite the air raid siren sounding and me being told to stay whew I was if it dud? (turned out the hall was bombed, so that was a no).

[maristella]

PGM: AIBU to want to sleep in DH's bed tonight?

(Pregnancy) How will my belly button stretch to let my baby out?

MGM: AIBU to wish I could go to university?

[eagerbeagle]

My great grandma. AIBU to have my illigitimate DD adopted by my auntie and never tell any of the 9 children I will later have about it so they can find out after I'm dead. My boyfriend got himself killed in the war so can't marry him.

Well?

[Theas18]

Aibu to not want to help with any of my twin sisters when my mother let my dearest darling baby Charles die? (PGM born I'm 1899, had 2 sets of much younger twin sisters all of whom thrived, but little Charlie, the much wanted boy died).

The really sad one....maternal GGM.

In mental health..
So down...the babies hate me, I think the new one is the worst. She won't feed from me, but will take that national formula frommy sister.I think I'm poisoning her...their lives would be better without the way I am killing their souls. There I'd only one way out.

She drowned herself in the canal, due to postnatal depression when the baby was less than 6 months old.....

And the funny....paternal GM

AIBU to refuse to attend my elder sons wedding to that trollop who says she's going to keep teaching when they marry. It won't last above 6 months.
(they married in 1951 mum worked all her life, often supporting dad through career changes, and are still together! )

[GhostShip]

AIBU to think my feet, even at 83 are utterly gorgeous?

^ she always thought this. I never understood why because feet are feet. But after working in a care home, I understand she had amazing feet for her age!

[GhostShip]

That was my great nan.

My grandmas would be 'I am unreasonable for first giving my son up for adoption, then having two girls and never telling them. Then leaving them in the care of their father who I know is a perve. Oh and I'm also an alcoholic'

[Spottyblancmange]

This is a bit more light-hearted than many on the thread, but my grandmothers would have been "Am I being unreasonable to eat this entire box of jelly babies despite being diabetic and supposedly on a strict low sugar diet? Also, am I being unreasonable to think that seeing as the Dr told me I can have one sugar in my tea, it's okay to put a tablespoonful in instead of a teaspoon?"

[ComradeJing]

MGF - Aibu to leave south Africa and the wonderful life we have here (servants, large house, lots of money) to go to live in a shitbox flat in the uk because apartheid is utterly wrong?

Aibu to refuse to talk to my daughter for 6 months because she doesn't want to study chemistry at Uni?

MGM - Aibu to not want to follow Dh to the uk as he is an alcoholic and financially abusive arse even if his principles are spot on?

Dh mother - Aibu to tie ds to a tree in the garden so I can get on with my chores? Aibu to make Ds do three hours work on the farm in bare feet every day? We can't afford shoes.

[LackingNameChangeInspiration]

AIBU to secretly tell DD2 that she and her fiance are not welcome at DD1s wedding even though DD1 was desperately hurt that she was not there? He's just a policeman you see, so it probably won't last and this way we wont have to explain him to our friends, DD1 is marrying a proper professional