To think this is a terrible message to send to this girl (sensitive subject)

[Namechangerooonie]

Social Services are allowing a convicted child abuser access to his children as they're boys and he 'only' abused his step daughter.

I think this is really wrong and a dreadful message to send to this young girl.

How is it fair that he is deemed not a risk to them but only to her?

what about when they grow up and know he did that to their sister and that it was ok for him to have a normal relationship with them?

[Namechangerooonie]

Why would you think I should call someone - who? He is very openly visiting which is why I assume he has permission. We live opposite a police station, there are 2 who live in our little turning.

I appreciate what you say and if you think I should call someone let me know who.

The mother thinks we are friends, she tells me a lot, and I don't really want to listen. I'm at home a lot so see him going in every day, waving to the neighbours. It's being done all really openly.

[BelleDameSansMerci]

Poor, poor girl...

Please try to help her if you can. She'll already have massive issues to deal with and her mother effectively colluding with her abuser (by not cutting him out of all their lives) will only make things worse, IMO (I'm not a psychologist).

[Birdsgottafly]

Make a call to the local police or SS.

Just say that you are concerned as you have seen a neighbours ex partner and sex offender at the family home where children live.

He won't have permission to be there, i promise you that, she is lying to everyone.

The police will not be looking out for him to call. You can bet she is well hiding the fact.

[Birdsgottafly]

She will be given the chance to be rid of him, it wil only be because she is allowing contact that the children would be removed.

He may now go to prison as he must be breaking bail/probation conditions.

[Pendeen]

A little more information that you originally gave, thank you.

So they live in your street. Do you know any more than local gossip / local newspaper reports? Are you perssonally involved or is all the information second hand?

[Namechangerooonie]

Yes, it is all second hand, all from the mother who talks to me every day.

I've never spoken to him nor seen a newspaper report as it happened before we moved in.

I don't talk to anyone else about it, just her. And the reason I'm 'gossiping' on here is because it's anonymous and I'm upset by what she told me.

After whats been said on here I'm going to make a confidential call to SS.

[seeker]

I don't think it's a good that this is being discussed on here. Second hand, based on partial information. No idea what the social services or the police or thprobation service is doing in the background.

But lots of peopl think they can judge a situation based on that information alone!

[Birdsgottafly]

It is good that it is being discussed on here as everyone took it for granted that this is allowed under SS and it isn't. If the OP has told the truth as given to her this would never happen, but once again posters jumped on 'the ineffectual CP in the UK'.

If anyone thinks a similar situation is happening by them, then report.

A parent who has commited DV doesn't get to just go straight back home without engaging with services, in some circumstances at all.

If the mother is reteling this then that alone is cause for concern, she is presenting with MH problems.

[Birdsgottafly]

If it wasn't for neighbours reporting then 50% of child abuse/neglect would go unchallenged.

[Pendeen]

OP sounds as if you have a good grasp of what is happening.

A quiet call to SS seems appropriate.

[plumtart]

In this case i think u def need t call soc svcs. Tell them info is 2 nd hand n where u got it from but tell them everything. If storyvis true then almost certainly he wldnt b allowd there esp in step daughters home evem if she is out