To ask what you would do?

[osd]

Ds nearly 3, potty trained, so we took the gate off his room so he can us the toilet as the potty is to small.

Tonight I go upstairs as I can here him, go into the bathroom the hot taps are on full (this has happened before so that I had no hot water in the morning) but in the sink is a used tampon, ok yuk I can't flush them as we have a leachfield, so I put them in a small bin; emptied every morning. The two dirty nappies are on a low shelf and the other tampon hes tried to shove down the bidet plughole there is water all over the floor. All he says to me is 'done a poo poo mammy' aarghh!

So I said no Fireman Sam in the morning and yes I did tap his bum not hard but he already knew I was mad. There has been similar antics every night this week. So I had already sent him to bed with 'be a good boy and go straight to sleep and you can watch Fireman Sam' So disappointed with him, and I should have pulled the handles off the taps.

So AIBU what should I do with him, I am fed up I am almost past parenting him he is so difficult.

[AnyFucker]

Trill, you should have a medal for your thread-policing activities

and she would have still got a pasting...

[squeakytoy]

I also think you should buy a bigger potty that he can use in his bedroom at night. It is dangerous for a small child to be walking around in the dark too if he wakes up and needs the loo.

[GirlWithALlamaTattoo]

I can't believe the reaction to putting rubbish in a bin! That's what it's for!

If he only does this at night, i.e. when you're not around, it suggests that he knows he's not supposed to. He is very little, and perhaps doesn't understand why he shouldn't, but if he didn't know it was wrong, he'd do it openly, wouldn't he? Probably exploring more than trying to piss you off, but the end result's the same. I therefore don't think punishment per se is unjustified.

In terms of prevention, though, maybe he isn't old enough to use the bathroom unsupervised at night. Maybe a potty would be better for now.

Sorry I can't be more definite, I just wanted to offer support; I think you've been treated unfairly on here.

[TrillianAstra]

In WWYD the pasting is more of a "not what you did" rather than "you are unreasonable and WRONG". It's a gentler pasting.

[Goofymum]

You took the stairgate off so that DS could use the toilet freely during the night. So he uses the toilet successfully. You are pleased with that bit presumably.
The issue is then that he messes around after a toilet trip and doesn't go straight back to bed (or use the toilet as an excuse to explore). Howabout you resurrect a child monitor so that you can hear as soon as he gets up and you can help him to the toilet, or at least listen out that he gets back in to bed straight afterwards. If you don't have a monitor just listen out harder! Alot of 2 or 3 year olds get out of bed as soon as they have that freedom (ie, not in a cot, no stairgate etc). You just need to use those techniques that SuperNanny bangs on about and are successful, ie just keep putting them back into bed, with minimal or no conversation. Whilst he's at this normal exploring phase ensure everything harmful or disgusting is out of reach or behind a locked cupboard or in your bedroom.

[AnyFucker]

a kind of bland wallpaper paste, instead of a fiery curry paste ?

[DoMeDon]

What would I do? Reduce my expectations of a 2 year old to something more appropraite. I'd stop leaving things about at his level which are filth. I would put stair gate back on and put a potty in his bedroom. i wouldn;t smack him for being 2. I'd parent him and get over myself.

HTH

[KittyFane]

*amibeingdaft -I can't believe you all walk merrily through the house with your tampons every time you change them! Yuk!'

Yes, they go outside or in a nappy bag in kitchen bin. I don't leave them loose, festering in a small bathroom bin- not even for a day. Yuk

[KittyFane]

amibeingdaft -I can't believe you all walk merrily through the house with your tampons every time you change them! Yuk!'

Yes, they go outside or in a nappy bag in kitchen bin. I don't leave them loose, festering in a small bathroom bin- not even for a day. Yuk

[AnyFucker]

I don't walk "merrily" through the house with a used tampon

I wrap it several times in loo roll and put it either straight into the outside bin (weather dependent) or in the kitchen bin with other waste that is emptied at least daily

Nobody knows, nobody realises

Why would they ?

[HairyButtMonkey]

Tampons in a bin?! Puke, boak, etc, sigh.... Get over yourself ladies and leave the poor OP alone. I find all this cod-disgust very boring. Particularly as most of us mums are wrist-deep in shit most days and barely bother to wrinkle our noses

You know many countries put USED TOILET PAPER in their bathroom bins - the dirty bastards. Puke, boak, repeat ad nauseum...

[MelodyPond]

I'm confused. Surely he isn't dry at night yet is he? Does he not still wear a nappy?

My Ds is potty trained in the day and will happily take himself off to the loo for a poo, but not at night.....

[MelodyPond]

My Ds is 3.1 years BTW.

[Portofino]

Dd had a potty chair thing in her room in case she needed a wee in the night. We left it there til she was about 4, though it got used less and less.

[MelodyPond]

No way is my Ds ready for that. There would be poo smeared walls in just one night!

[UniS]

get a bin with a child proof lid- one that needs twisting to line up with tabs or similar. SO far mine has proved DS proof.

[StopRainingPlease]

Come on people, used tampons are not pleasant but they're not nuclear waste. Get a grip!

[PeneloPeePitstop]

get a mooncup

[MelodyPond]

Op, it does sound like normal toddler behaviour. You were probably expecting too much from him, lesson learnt. Get the stairgate back on and then you won't have to worry about him.

[KittyFane]

Hairy- loose in a bin, yes, yuk.

[amistillsexy]

I must be out of touch.
I don't have an issue with the tampons in the bin (apart from the environmental one!), but for me the bit UABU about is the inconsistancy:

'So I said no Fireman Sam in the morning'...'be a good boy and go straight to sleep and you can watch Fireman Sam'

Which is it to be, OP? Can he or can't he watch Fireman Sam?

[bonkers20]

It sounds like he was left unsupervised for quite a while before you investigated.

I can't leave my 2.5 year old in the bathroom even while I'm right there with him without him unrolling the loo roll, flinging the loo brush around (yes, I KNOW, it's against MN law to even have one), emptying the bin and generally causing chaos!

So, I put everything on the window sill. Easy. Could you do that after he's gone to bed?

I wrap used tampons in loo roll then put in nappy sack and transfer to kitchen bin every day, NOT after every tampon. It's just blood. But I suppose if I had a notion my DS would be curious then I'd make sure he couldn't get to them.

I don't think he's being naughty, it sounds like he's just very excited about all the interesting things in the bathroom. A 2 YO doesn't know that the bathroom bin isn't lucky dip!

If he really is toilet trained then he shouldn't really be needed repeated trips to the loo during the night anyway. Once he's asleep that should be it - most nights anyway.

[AnyFucker]

a loo brush

a loo brush??????

< faints clean away >

[PublicHair]

you aren't meant to flush sanitary towels and tampons you know. imagine them undissolved appearing on a beach near you...

i don't know why OP's getting such a kicking for putting rubbish in a bin

she shouldn't have hit him, she should be watching him better. but what do you do with period stuff when it's been used.

[withLainintheWired]

I think you'll have to get the baby monitor back out and assist him in going to the toilet at night to stop him getting into mischief. I don't think there is any point banning fireman Sam tomorrow, your DS won't remember why by morning, I expect.