to ditch DH on Father's day and go on a jolly without him?

[AtYourCervix]

got a chance to go to the theatre with the DDs. something DH really wouldn't be interested in. (v cheap tickets - normally waaaaay out of my price range)

Should we go?

[piprabbit]

howabout of course YANBU to make cards. Nothing says "I love you" like a card which appears to have paint sneezed over it.

[howabout]

Is it thread hijacking if I ask the ancilliary, AIBU not to support Hallmark etc by buying a Father's Day card and just get DCs to make them?

[fuzzpigFriday]

Ooh what threads were there on mothers day squeakytoy?

[kreecherlivesupstairs]

YANBU, for many reasons. Father's day is a made up event. My DH wouldn't/doesn't even know it is father's day on Sunday. I feel very similar about Mother's day although it is a historical thing, to my mind it is just a cynical marketing ploy by hallmark. I am curmudeonly though.
With regard to who to take, I'd go with the friend TBH.

[pooka]

I can think of nothing, nothing I would prefer to do on Mother's Day thank for DH to take the kids out for a whole day while I mooch round the house and doze.

DD would be sad though. It's a bit like on my birthday we always seem to do family style things, so the dcs can be with me on my birthday (or at the weekend after) when what I'd really like is to be on my own for once. Grumble grumble....

(I do love the children, but I'm with one or other of them all the time and a little time to myself would be bliss)

[Omigawd]

as squeaky toy says..if situations were reversed this would be Emotional Abuse from an NPD bastard of the highest order!

In reality DH would probably be delighted with a bj and buggering off with the kids for the day ;)

[Deaddei]

Well I think both Fathers Day and Mothers Day are a load of bollocks...

[squeakytoy]

I can just imagine the outrage if the situation where reversed on Mothers Day

The sense of entitlement that day in AIBU was hilarious!

[Bluemoonrising]

Personally I'd take DD2s mate. Not because of what you have said, but because I think it is more important to me to make a day out special for my daughter than for my mother, and if there has to be a choice, my daughter wins.

[AtYourCervix]

but mother is bonkers eccentric and DD2s mate is lovely. although mother may pay for train. and she doesn't get out much.

[VelvetSnow]

agree with PinkSchmoo.

[PinkSchmoo]

Mother and then you have a bit of a break too!

[AtYourCervix]

DH was very pleased to get rid of us for the day. anly problem is i can either take mother or DD2s friend but not both. who should I take?

[fuzzpigFriday]

:o yes I'm sure we will be fighting our way in. Maybe we should go to the Asda next door first and get supplies for the queue?

[ShoutyHamster]

Hope you plan on getting there early to beat the hordes fuzzpig

[VelvetSnow]

Let us know how he responds.

I'll eat my feet if he goes in a huff

[AtYourCervix]

he does indeed enjoy cricket, come dine with me, hands in pants and would also enjoy the signal box.

A day off for DH it si then!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

[fuzzpigFriday]

Ooh yes, you could pointedly leave out some takeaway menus for him and your card number, or something.

I'm working on fathers day :( I do every other Sunday in a charity shop so I'm out 10-5ish. His older DDs are staying for the weekend though so we/they are having a massive board game/wii/DVD-fest with lots of crappy junk food, I doubt he'll even notice I've gone as their eyes will be glued to the screen (one of his presents is Harry Potter Lego wii game)

On Saturday though we are going to the local level crossing because they have this old signal box thing, and they open it to the public a few times a year. Oh the excitement :o

[VelvetSnow]

WADR MrSpoc, it is his day, to do with as he pleases...he might want to sit in front of tv watching Come Dine With Me, with his hands down his pants for all we know...

The fact that he has a whole day to do as he pleases is enough IMO, personally I'd love that!

[piprabbit]

I'd go with the 'day off' approach. DH would make a half-hearted protest, but be secretly delighted to be left alone in blissful peace (as would I - give half a chance).

[grovel]

Does your DH like cricket? Have you got Sky?

If yes to both he'll happy as a pig in shit - there's a Test match on. Leave him a 6 pack of beer, a pork pie and some chocolate biscuits.

[VelvetSnow]

Just make sure he doesn't drink the bubble bath and bathe in the beer.

[MrSpoc]

I have to say that if you buggetred off all day then as a father i would be pissed off, its meant to be his day but if you planned something special for him then it shows you thought about him.

[howabout]

My DH would see day without us all as the perfect Father's Day gift as long as we came home safe and sound and told him how much we missed him / how much he had achieved without us etc etc. Would the reverse not pretty much summarise your perfect Mother's Day?