To buy MYSELF something nice to look at and not helpful to anyone else in any way?

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I have recently acquired some cash. Not humungous sums but enought to get the kitchen sorted, maybe the driveway done, so nice but not lifechanging.

I have seen a necklace I want so badly it makes me want to weep and I want to buy it. For ME. I never seem to buy anything unless it's practical, for the children or DH says we need it. In fact, when I look back at since the children were born I think I turned myself into a right boring mummy fucking martyr.

Should I buy the necklace? It's not hideously expensive I just seem to have gone from being someone who would buy whatever she felt like (cash permitting) to this 'oh I couldn't possibly justify buying myself something frivolous' twat.

tell me to buy it

I love Alex Monroe jewellery and have the bumblebee necklace as well as some flowery hoop earrings - definitely worth treating yourself and much better than frittering it away on clothes / shoes etc. It will last a lifetime and remind you of your windfall (pun intended)

Buy it, and use the rest of the money (if there's anything left) for the family.

When I inherited a few grand from my Granny (thank you Granny!!) I was adamant to strike a balance. Granny would have wanted me to buy something to remember her by whilst I couldn't justify spending it all on me when our furniture was dying. So I bought a piece of jewellry and two sofas... balance restored.

YADNBU enjoy!!!!