not have sex

[dollyblue84]

aibu to still not have sex with partner 8 months after baby?

[QuackQuackSqueak]

Are you just not feeling the urge or are you scared it will hurt?

[worraliberty]

I think it's worth a word with the Doctor. 8 months is a long time and perhaps the longer you leave it, the less you'll want to do it.

How does your partner feel?

[dollyblue84]

i just dont feel like it at all
still breastfeeding but never got my sex drive back. before we had planned baby we were very happy and loved our sex life but since i just cant bring myself to do it and just dont want to

[MagicFoxhole]

Yanbu.

[PaperView]

Depends on your reasons. I haven;t had sex for about 18 months for a number of reasons.

[CucumberMuncher]

No YANBU because it is entirely your own choice, however if you have a happy relationship you should be thinking about the reasons behind it?

I haven't had sex since my dd was born 13 months ago but that was because I had a birth injury that makes it impossible (am on waiting list for surgery).

[LadyOfTheManor]

I waited 6 months, merely because I had a touch on PND, was breast feeding, and followed such a strict routine I literally was too tired to fit it in. I don't even have the decent excuse of tears and stitches because I had none...I was just put off and exhausted!

If it's your first baby then I understand completely, and no amount of pressure from anyone eases that up. I just bit the bullet and did it one night.

[AgentZigzag]

Is it him or you who doesn't want to have it?

[strawberrymewmew]

I guess it depends on how you are feeling, how your relationship is otherwise and the reasons behind you not wanting to.

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