Is a large glass of wine every night too much?

[cordelia28]

A regular argument in our house,
Is it?

I can get 5 glasses out of a bottle of wine.Are my glasses abnormaly small?

They are normal sized glasses.

It will raise your blood pressure and make you more susceptible to various cancers. One of the groups that doctors are most concerned about is that of middle-aged, middle-class women.

Alcohol only protects you from various ailments in moderation. If you are drinking more than 250ml of wine a night every night and more at the weekends that isn't moderation.

And you are probably spending quite a lot of money on it.

Not everyone either drinks a glass a night or binges at the weekend. Most probably don't drink during the week and then have a couple of glasses or whatever at the weekend surely? It isn't one or the other,you have a choice.

Normal sized glasses are 125 ml- since I don't fill them to the very top, I get 7 oout of a bottle.

I do the same--use 125 ml.

But you seldom see people using these size glasses. Lots of my friends have glasses that are more like 250 ml. It's really easy to drink a lot more than you think you are if you use bigger glasses. But they are ubiquitous. When we wanted to buy new glasses this year we had a bit of struggle to find the 125 mls.

True,we're in France, they are standard here, but whenever we go to England, people and restaurants serve wine in larger glasses.

Easier to control your unit intake in smaller ones- one is around 1.5 or 2 units, depending on the strength of the wine.

I think we ended up getting French glasses!

Agree with bagged and tagged re the number of units involved.
I prefer to stay between 14 and 21 units a week and prefer to have at least 1 alcohol free evenings a week, means I get more done on an evening.
500ml of wine (ie 2 large glasses) is quite alot, especially for a woman.
If your husband thinks you are drinking too much then I wouldn't dismiss it. Very few people want to live with someone with an alcohol problem and I'll often suggest to my husband we drink less if I get concerned it's mounting up.

I get uneasy when dh has a drink during the week (only very rarely happens). I don't usually drink myself, one glass of wine every 3 months maybe.

I think if it makes your partner uneasy then you have a bit of a problem here. (even if its not a drinking one)

Your op says "a glass of wine every night" then you go on saying that it's not everynight.
I would sugest writing keeping a record for a month (truthful record) and seeing how much / how often you actually drink. Then you know, you can either rectify it or show dh you are well within the "recommended" guideline.

Don't you think its a bit much to get "uneasy" if your dh has a rare drink midweek though, Juney? Isn't that a bit ott? If you have a problem with that then that's your problem, not his, surely.

It's probably doing more good than not.

what I hate about mid-week at-home drinking is that the person you live with isn't really there ; they're not the same person. I can see how that could be irritating for a spouse. If you've planned to have an unwind drink together,for social reasons, it's different

Any more than the amount OP would be a problem. So yes, because of this, I would consider cutting back. If both of you are polishing off a bottle a night then that could escalate.

It can not be great for your health either.

Yes we do have large glasses So I suppose it's more like 2 glasses and you're right about if my dh isn't happy with it then we need to look at it as we do with any other issues that arise. I had several glasses last night (had people round) but I've decided not to have anything until Christmas eve a good 5 day break - and perhaps cutback midweek in the new year too. Your comments have made me think about dependency I dont want to not be able to relax without it.

I can't relax without it. I rarely gt hammered as I said before but probably be good to try other ways to wind down.