Is a large glass of wine every night too much?

[cordelia28]

A regular argument in our house,
Is it?

[cordelia28]

Yes we do have large glasses So I suppose it's more like 2 glasses and you're right about if my dh isn't happy with it then we need to look at it as we do with any other issues that arise. I had several glasses last night (had people round) but I've decided not to have anything until Christmas eve a good 5 day break - and perhaps cutback midweek in the new year too. Your comments have made me think about dependency I dont want to not be able to relax without it.

I can't relax without it. I rarely gt hammered as I said before but probably be good to try other ways to wind down.

[snowyweather]

Any more than the amount OP would be a problem. So yes, because of this, I would consider cutting back. If both of you are polishing off a bottle a night then that could escalate.

It can not be great for your health either.

[santasakura]

what I hate about mid-week at-home drinking is that the person you live with isn't really there ; they're not the same person. I can see how that could be irritating for a spouse. If you've planned to have an unwind drink together,for social reasons, it's different

[Abr1de]

It's probably doing more good than not.

[bibbitybobbitysantahat]

Don't you think its a bit much to get "uneasy" if your dh has a rare drink midweek though, Juney? Isn't that a bit ott? If you have a problem with that then that's your problem, not his, surely.

[June2009]

I get uneasy when dh has a drink during the week (only very rarely happens). I don't usually drink myself, one glass of wine every 3 months maybe.

I think if it makes your partner uneasy then you have a bit of a problem here. (even if its not a drinking one)

Your op says "a glass of wine every night" then you go on saying that it's not everynight.
I would sugest writing keeping a record for a month (truthful record) and seeing how much / how often you actually drink. Then you know, you can either rectify it or show dh you are well within the "recommended" guideline.

[2rebecca]

Agree with bagged and tagged re the number of units involved.
I prefer to stay between 14 and 21 units a week and prefer to have at least 1 alcohol free evenings a week, means I get more done on an evening.
500ml of wine (ie 2 large glasses) is quite alot, especially for a woman.
If your husband thinks you are drinking too much then I wouldn't dismiss it. Very few people want to live with someone with an alcohol problem and I'll often suggest to my husband we drink less if I get concerned it's mounting up.

[Abr1de]

I think we ended up getting French glasses!

[winnybella]

True,we're in France, they are standard here, but whenever we go to England, people and restaurants serve wine in larger glasses.

Easier to control your unit intake in smaller ones- one is around 1.5 or 2 units, depending on the strength of the wine.

[Abr1de]

I do the same--use 125 ml.

But you seldom see people using these size glasses. Lots of my friends have glasses that are more like 250 ml. It's really easy to drink a lot more than you think you are if you use bigger glasses. But they are ubiquitous. When we wanted to buy new glasses this year we had a bit of struggle to find the 125 mls.

[winnybella]

Normal sized glasses are 125 ml- since I don't fill them to the very top, I get 7 oout of a bottle.

[NinkyNonker]

Not everyone either drinks a glass a night or binges at the weekend. Most probably don't drink during the week and then have a couple of glasses or whatever at the weekend surely? It isn't one or the other,you have a choice.

[Abr1de]

It will raise your blood pressure and make you more susceptible to various cancers. One of the groups that doctors are most concerned about is that of middle-aged, middle-class women.

Alcohol only protects you from various ailments in moderation. If you are drinking more than 250ml of wine a night every night and more at the weekends that isn't moderation.

And you are probably spending quite a lot of money on it.

[anonymosity]

They are normal sized glasses.

[frazzled74]

I can get 5 glasses out of a bottle of wine.Are my glasses abnormaly small?

[JimmyChooChoo]

My God OP that is a fraction of what I consume every evening
I would be proud if I only had 1 glass of vino.And no yanbu for having that.

[Animation]

My red wine routine: -

Mon - 0 or (1 large)
Tue - 0
Wed - 0
Thu - 2 (large)
Fri - 0
Sat - 2-3 (large)
Sun - 0

[porcamiseria]

no

[cakewench]

In the OP it says a 'large glass' and the followup says 'a glass'. I know I'm nitpicking, but the 'large glass' servings are often actually half the bottle. So it is quite a distinction to make, especially if you're asking the question as to whether or not it's too much.

A single small glass (if you are getting approx 4 1/2 - 5 glasses per bottle then that's the size we're talking) per day is not overdoing it. However, I'd say a large glass per day, seven days a week, is too much. For the reasons given above re: overworked livers etc.

[GlitteryBalls]

My dp has a glass pretty much every night and it pisses me off as I am pregnant and want some! And I find it funny as he hardly ever used drink before he was with me, and I introduced him to wine... But I would never comment/object to him having the odd glass to relax after a hard day at work! Unless of course he was getting absolutely bladdered every night and then I might start to get a little concerned! So tell your dp to feck off - if he wants to save it up and get wrecked at the weekend that's up to him, but if you fancy the odd glass mid-week then do it I say!

[KERALA1]

DH and I realised our drinking had crept up. Now we dont drink in the week unless one of us has a night out (prob about once a month or so). Then we drink what we like Fri - Sunday. We only buy really decent wine now as we drink less of it. Its worked for us - my tolerance has gone down so dont drink that much at the weekends (couple of glasses enough) and really look forward to Fridays . Am not a doctor but am sure that some people would be fine drinking what you do but equally some will not.

Oh and found tonic water quite an adequate non sugary non childish alcohol free drink.

[Loie159]

just saw your response above.... i think that it is wrong for DH to make you feel guilty if you want a glass of wine after a tough day whether it is Mon or Fri! To not drink all week is his choice not yours, but dont hide it from him! Could a compromise be no alcohol Mon - Wed?

[Loie159]

why do you argue about it? sorry if this has already been said.... if its because DH thinks its too much then why not just have 2-3 nights a week not drinking? does he think you are drinking too much mid week? I dont think its too much necessarily as you are old enough to manage your own intake - i just wonder why there are arguments? i heart wine but i try hard to have 2-4 nights off a week to reduce guilt!