... working, I might add! (Other than the occasional glance at MN)
CM lives a few doors down from me and has 2 charges, my DS and another child. The other child was off today as her sibling's school was closed and their mum had to stay home with them for the day.
DH and I are at home, working. I cleared our path and our elderly neighbours', dropped DS off at CM's this morning as usual, and DH and I decided to brave the snow to do some hoarding shopping for us and our elderly neighbours. Got back and I decided to clear the pavement in front of ours and our neighbours' houses (as elderly neighbours mentioned popping out later, I figured even a safe 3m stretch of pavement was better than nothing) and bumped into CM taking DS over to a fellow CM's for a playdate. Her child (13) is off school today and she seemed a little miffed at me. I asked her if she'd like me to clear the ice on the pavement in front of her house and she threw a backward glance at me saying "If you'd like." I suddenly felt guilty and made several assurances that I would try and pick DS up early.
However, now I'm thinking about it, I don't know how I'm in the wrong. Sure, she would love to have a snow day like a lot of other people, but DH and I still have to work, which is next to impossible to do if DS was home. And I don't see clearing the pavement of treacherous ice in front of our house as skiving. 'Twas a very odd encounter. Don't get me wrong - I love our CM to bits, and she's great CM and neighbour to us. Just wondering whether IWBU to drop DS off when it seemed obvious that CM would have loved a snow day in with her family?
AIBU?
Dropped DS off with the CM whilst I'm home ...
WhereToStartYetAgain · 01/12/2010 11:53
I've only read the OP but I'm a CM and am a bit 
at her reaction!! She's paid to provide a service and it's really non of her business whether or not you're at work! I had a parent who uses me for a break a couple of days a week. I have fulltimers who still come when parents can't get to work as maybe they want to take advantage of cleaning the house, catching up with other bits or maybe having a rest. Yes, I'd love a free day off (wouldn't we all) but I'd never EXPECT anything and wouldn't react in that way. What WOULD annoy me is if you did what one of the parents did on another thread (in CM section - they are nightmare parents full stop though) and built a snowman, had a snowball fight and a general good old laugh right in full few of their children who were then upset/tantruming at the childminders as they wanted to join in with mummy and daddy :(
You are definitely NOT BU :)
My son has gone to nursery today and I am not at work. I am on maternity leave.
When I am at work he goes on my working days plus one (mornings).
In fact by the time I get back to work he will be going every morning as he will be 3.
Should I keep him off every time I am not at work?
I dont see the difference TBH.
My old CM (who was also my aunt) used to moan about one of her families all thr time. They worked from home a lot and lived a couple of doors down. She couldnt understand why they didnt keep their DS off all the time.
I thought she was a bit odd to think like that. Did she expect to be paid for not looking after him? 
YANBU OP. I work term time only, 2yo DS goes to a nursery 1 day per week. He absolutely goes in in the holidays because a) it's paid for, b) I then get to spend a bit of one to one time with DD (11) before she decides she's too cool to spend time with me 
and c) he enjoys it. I used to use a CM for DD before and after school. Even if I wasn't going in to work (eg: ringing in sick) I would still drop her off there and go back to bed and DH would pick her up as normal after school.
"It makes you feel good to do something nice for someone else, you know. It's not all about money." pointydog the OP has been clearing her neighbours path! And if it was any other kind of service - say your boiler had broken, would you not call out the plumber so that he could have a snow day? Would you bollocks
damsel me and DH built a snowman and had a snow fight last year - and we are def not odd!
But then i would say that wouldnt i?
Thanks again for opinions ladies. I'm on a (well-deserved!) lunch break. Will be keeping DS home with me tomorrow if the snow won't let me travel in to college. I know I'll need at least one day over the weekend to work, but he can spend that time with DH. Now I just need to find a good set of ear plugs and a lock for the room door ....
I don't know whether there's any point in saying anything to her about these past couple of days. She hasn't come outright to say anything to me, but her general attitude towards me has been rather frosty, to say the least. It's not something I would do to her - if she has to have time off and tells me so, I've never given it grudgingly - so feel that the past couple of days have been rather unfair to me. Oh well, maybe she'll say something when I go to pick him up
And I promise I am not a parent from the other "larking about in the snow whilst DC cry to join us" thread 
Even that would be too cruel for me!
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