Hmmm, interesting reading here and I'm namechanging to respond to this thread because I am an NCT antenatal teacher and I like to keep my work and fun separate on Mumsnet.
I too had mixed experiences with the NCT as an attendee when pregnant but with each course I did (three in total), I learned more about the process of labour, birth and the transition to becoming a parent of 1, 2 or more children. I particularly liked the space and time given to considering how my husband and I might choose to parent our children (safe sleeping, what did we think about crying/sleeping/different methods, how were we going to seek support around us after the baby was born). It was a gentle, exploratory, questioning environment to open the door to parenthood but made it very clear that the choices were for us to make.
I'm not sure my husband would have engaged with any preparation for the birth of our first child had we not gone to classes. For that alone, I am thankful that we went.
But I too was doubtful about some of the topics covered (vaccinations?) at the time, the breastfeeding teaching was diabolical and the group was very varied in its income level so I didn't really find any common buddies. The local branch was unwelcoming of poorer members as well.
But we moved, did the classes again in another area, they were monumentally better, we were also more experienced and perhaps asked more knowledgeable questions and found the experience more satisfying. The local branch were lovely, I have made friends through the class, through volunteering, through attending the baby group and some of my closest friends (and bookgroup pals) were people I met through or via NCT links. No regrets there. Whole range of birth experiences as well.
Everyone I meet has a different opinion on any topic you care to mention. The same is true for birth/parenting (evidence being this site, which I love). The individual opinions matter to those individuals, because they're making the right decisions for them, at that time, with the information they are comfortable using.
I chose to begin training as an antenatal teacher with the NCT because I felt that I was capable of doing what others had done for me and my husband - lay out and explain/enable us to explore what goes on (or might go on), how we might choose different options and what the evidenced-based pros and cons of some of those choices might impact us and give a space and time to explore the changeover into becoming parents and how we might want to plan or discuss our different views together beforehand, while considering the impact of our changing relationship after the birth of the baby. All of it, not just some of it.
Sometimes, just looking at the evidence on, say, effects of epidurals, can be quite challenging to someone who had previously been thinking that it was a failsafe fallback solution. I don't have an agenda there in raising the evidence other than supporting someone to make an informed choice about their decision to have an epidural.
I hope I do that, I know I love meeting such a wide spectrum of parents (and every single one is different) and exploring what it is that they want to consider or cover in preparation for this particular baby. Not every person in every class/group will find everything we cover in classes helpful nor will they agree with it, that's OK. But we always cover Csection, induction, NICU, recovery etc etc, because that's part of a potential birth outcome.
The group define the agenda, they come up with the topics and I design the course around them. We can't cover everything either. I ask them on the last session to discuss together or to define for themselves how and where they are going to find the information that we have not covered (various, depending on the course)?
So, I suppose I am sad in reading some of the posts on this thread and hesitated before posting this. Am still in two minds now, here we go.