DH and I just been discussing this expression and I'm having difficulty explaining why I find it so repulsive.
My usually liberal and progressive DH has shocked me to be honest: he says that there are women who deliberately go out in skimpy outfits and act in a sexually provocative way only to later make it clear to a guy they were flirting with that sex absolutely isn't on the cards. I say they're perfectly entitled to do this, he agrees, but says in some women it's a form of deliberate manipulation, hence the derogative label being applied to them.
I think there are 2 main things which are pissing me off the most:
The phrase itself (it's actually 'virgin bitch' in his native language which I think is even worse) is so bloody dehumanizing. As if female behaviour should automatically be viewed through a penis-shaped lens.
And also, the spectrum of application is huge... where does dressing attractively and behaving in a flirty manner end (if that's even allowed ) and 'cock teasing' begin? it just seems to be a label to exert power.
Bloody hell I'm cross. I'm having difficulty articulating myself.
Any thoughts?
Feminism: Sex and gender discussions
'Cock tease'
TrickyBiscuits · 07/07/2013 12:35
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