DP and I have been together for ages. We have 2 beautiful DCs, 4 and 3, and have been engaged for over 5 years.
Frankly we can't be bothered to have a wedding and we don't want the fuss hassle and stress of organising a wedding. Neither of us like big parties and we both have anxiety over that sort of thing. The though of having to say our vows in front of people fills us with dread.
We've contemplated just going to a registry office with both sets of our parents and signing the paperwork, but even that throws up issues. Both of our mums have re-married, I have no contact with my dad so from my side it would be mum and stepdad but I'd have to have my grandma there too. Then on DPs side he'd have to have his mum and stepdad, but his dad would be upset if he wasn't invited, and then his man would want to be there, so even inviting nobody we'd still end up with 6 or 7 people that don't get on in a room watching us and then we'd have to do something with them afterwards. The thought of going for a meal with all of them is just awful! DPs dad would get drunk, has nowhere to stay locally without staying with DPs auntie so then she'd have to be involved... basically there is no way we could have the little quiet ceremony that we'd like to have here in the U.K.
So, I think our best option would be to book a wedding holiday abroad. Just us and the DCs. I want to go somewhere where we can stay in a hotel, have the wedding nearby, but it just be us, we can rock up wearing casual clothes (nice stuff, but I'm thinking shorts and a nice top not suits and a wedding dress). And just get married. Then stay on for a few days and have a family holiday / honeymoon. The DCs are our world so we want them to be a part of it.
I've been looking online, but it all gets confusing as to which countries we could do this in without having to do anything here other than DP and I turning up somewhere and showing someone some paperwork.
Does anybody have any experience of this? Where can we go? Any recommendations? We don't want the whole 'honeymoon suite' and special treatment. Just a bog-standard package holiday with a quick 'I Do' thrown in. Is this even possible?!
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Where can we get married abroad and not have to have a U.K. ceremony too?
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MummySparkle · 13/01/2018 21:37
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