Hey everyone, I’m a 17 year old girl here, and I’m not a mom, but I’m here just to hear some moms’ perspectives on an issue we are currently having at home.
So I’ll get started. Since September last year, I’ve been attending a college which is roughly 40 minutes away from our house. This year, my little sister (11) got into a selective school in the same town, and now we both get drove by our dad to school/college respectively.
Now that we’ve got the background, I’ll get straight to the problem- our morning routine:
We start by getting up somewhere between 6 and 6:30, which I feel is ok to get into school/college at 8:45 or so as we both need to. After that we brush our teeth as people normally do, but here’s the problem- instead of showering and getting ready for school/college after brushing, we then go downstairs in our pjs to have breakfast.
Just to make it clear, breakfast in our house doesn’t mean a croissant or a packet of belvita breakfast biscuits. It means toast and cereal, or an omelette, or a bowl full of porridge with fruit.
By the time we finish eating breakfast, it’s usually around 7:10 or so, after which we go in the bathroom one after the other to get ready.
My sister’s usually first in, and only takes around 10 minutes (as she has had to forgo showering in the mornings and showers after school instead.) So despite this, by the time she comes out, I get around 15 minutes on an average day to go to the toilet, shower and get ready for college.
Let alone getting time to put on makeup or try different hairstyles, I barely get a couple of minutes to dab a bit moisturiser on my my dry skin or put on lip balm.
Despite both me and my sister literally racing out the bathroom, putting on our clothes at break neck speed and running down the stairs to get out the door, we are often late or almost late to school/college.
I have tried to speak to my mum about this issue, but she always says we should just eat faster and be faster in the bathroom, but I personally find it impossible to eat 2 slices of toast and an apple, drink a mug full of tea, and THEN go to the toilet, shower and get ready in under half an hour 😭
If I persist my mom always says that this is the best routine as apparently we’ll need the toilet as soon as we get to school if we eat after getting ready. If I suggest having a smaller breakfast so that doesn’t happen (like a packet of Belvita each or a croissant or something), she insists it won’t be enough.
Basically, however I approach the topic or whatever I suggest, there’s always a reason why this the best way to do things despite it being very inconvenient for so many reasons.
What I wanted to know is if there is a good way I could solve this issue without upsetting my mom?
And is it actually unreasonable of me as a child, from moms’ point of view to ask to change the morning routine?
Sorry if the post was too long btw, I just wanted to make it detailed so you can get a good idea of what’s going on!
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Am I being unreasonable or is my mom?
Daughter16 · 04/10/2019 14:57
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Why on earth are you involving your mother in your morning routine - you're 17 not 7!
Aside from that - you're up at 6, you go to the loo and clean your teeth, but you don't have breakfast till 7.10 - how does it take over an hour to use the loo and clean your teeth? Just shower then as well 
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