dd 14 bedroom

[GROOVEYCHICK]

hi dd is 14 up till a fortnight ago i was cleaning her room once a week and she kept it tidy and gave me her washing
since then its a tip and no washing has come out and i asked her to tidy it and she says no no point
do i do it tommorow when shes at school or leave it untill she does it?
not sure what to do for the best she hates me at the moment anyway lol
tia x

[Sparklingbrook]

No. You shut the door and leave it. She will have a panic when she runs out of clean underwear at which point you introduce her to the washing machine.

[GROOVEYCHICK]

thanks feel better now and hope i can keep strong and not cave

[freddiemisagreatshag]

NO. Close the door, like Sparkling says. Leave it. Only enter to retrieve cups/glasses/bowls/plates (only because otherwise we'd have none to eat off)

[Sparklingbrook]

I know exactly what you mean it is hard. DS1 is 13 and hi bedroom gets in a real mess and I itch to get in there and clear it all up but it really is his job not mine.

You have to try and pretend it doesn't exist. Be strong.

[Sparklingbrook]

Oh yes, you may have to grab glasses and crockery.

[GROOVEYCHICK]

no glasses and crockery just about a bagfull of half empty water bottles scattered all round lol

[GROOVEYCHICK]

no glasses and crockery just about a bagfull of half empty water bottles scattered all round lol

[Sparklingbrook]

So why does she hate you GROOVEY? What terrible crime have you committed as the mother of a teen?

[freddiemisagreatshag]

like Sparkling says - did you Breathe? Look at her the wrong way? Emmm say no to a sleepover with boys (nice try DD1), or tell her to do her own ironing?

[Sparklingbrook]

I bet GROOVEY bought the wrong crisps freddie, or mentioned Homework.

[freddiemisagreatshag]

homework. I did that today. She's upstairs banging and bashing.

And I suggested she might want to put her washing in the big washbasket in the bathroom if she wants it washed.

[WynkenBlynkenandNod]

I hadn't been in DD's room for 6 lovely, harmonious months. Unfortunately her friend fainted in the middle of the night during a sleepover last week and I had to go in. Even worse her friend's parents had to go in there.

[Sparklingbrook]

I suggested DS1 may like to have a shower.

[Sparklingbrook]

Wynken, have you started going in again now?

[freddiemisagreatshag]

Wynken don't cave and start going in.

Now, here's a question. It's Sunday night at 5pm. She has not given me any school uniform to wash. I have a thick head on and I am NOT asking for it.

Who bets she goes in dirty clothes in the morning?

[GROOVEYCHICK]

lol glad its not just me with a mum hating teen..ivsaid something really horrible it was hello lol
no i was nagging her so much ..asked twice .. nicely
and i asked for her washing well i thought her head was going to spin round
scary stuff

[WynkenBlynkenandNod]

No, I'm staying strong, it's been so much better now the door stays shut. She'll be down in the morning blaming you for the lack of clean clothes Freddie and claiming you have ruined her life.

[Sparklingbrook]

Asking twice GROOVEY blimey that was brave.

[freddiemisagreatshag]

As long as you remember it's all YOUR fault, it's NOT FAIR and everyone else's mum lets them you'll not go far wrong

[GROOVEYCHICK]

same the uniform is in with .. her and pe kit
oh dear you will all hear her screaching tmrw

[Sparklingbrook]

i ruined DS1's life last week. Wouldn't let him eat any more food before dinner.

[bigTillyMint]

I think you need congratulations for getting this far before she refused to tidy up her room

DD wants to redecorate her bedroom - I said fine, when you chuck out all your tat and start keeping it tidy

[WynkenBlynkenandNod]

There will be a mini earthquake as teens throughout the country explode tomorrow morning.

[freddiemisagreatshag]

Nobody will die. She'll tell all her friends how horrible you are and they'll all say no you're not their mother is worse because she did this and that and the other and didn't let them do blah blah blah.