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How do you know how you really look?

(48 Posts)
Smileypeeple Fri 03-Dec-10 23:00:43

OK, I'm no oil painting but I've always worked hard with what I have and thought I looked alright, ok maybe even occasionally pretty good.

I've now turned 40 had a short hair cut and am having crisis.

I feel like vie lost 'it' like I'm now a bit bleh and past it. Mum and dh saying all the right things, so I dontnknow if it's me worrying or if somethuings changed.

How do you ever really know??

Cyb Fri 03-Dec-10 23:04:52

I go through phases of looking ok/good (imo) and looking like a bag of spanners. I resemble the latter at the moment. Greasy hair, bags under eyes, lost my fashion mojo.

However, it coudl all turn around in the blink of an eye-if I buy something I love, or lose a couple of pounds, i'm right back up there with Helene Christiansen

Why not try putting a bit more slap on...or buying something to comppliment your new hair

Jajas Fri 03-Dec-10 23:05:45

I know how you feel. I think I'm exactly the same, plain but try my best to dress nicely, clothes, hair etc always good as can be. I do catch sight of myself sometimes though and think oh christ who am I kidding. I don't get complimented particularly but would be over the moon if someone said I looked good. Why do we care so much? I have working legs, I live in a prosperous country, I ate well tonight and yet we still want more <ponderous>.

Who on earth is the silly kid on Graham Norton as an aside?

Jajas Fri 03-Dec-10 23:06:50

Cyb do you really look like HC? envy

hmc Fri 03-Dec-10 23:10:44

Tonight dh saw Kylie on the 'One Show' (disclaimer - not our usual viewing habit) and asked:

How old is she now?

Same age as me (I replied)

Thought so, she looks the same as you (said he)

How I guffawed, I think he is after sexual favours

I look fractionally younger than my age but could do with losing muchos pounds in weight. Not all that bothered about how I look - face it, tis fleeting...we are all eventually going to hell in a hand cart in that department

seanbonbon Fri 03-Dec-10 23:11:54

yep- I see myself in photos and think "no way can I look like that!"

Jajas- thats Bette Midler, I know she's short but thats a bit mean smile

Smileypeeple Fri 03-Dec-10 23:13:49

I think I may try more make up.

I'm just not sure if the hair cutbwas a huge mistaken nor not.

Ive gone short bob, but now I feel long hair= youth and beauty!!!!

I dont think the Boden ctaalogue is helping, they all have long hair!!

The truth is no one will ever tell you the truth.

MistressMaker Fri 03-Dec-10 23:13:51

Jajas, I was thinking the same!

About justin bieber I mean.

OP, post a recent photo and we'll tell you wink

Smileypeeple Fri 03-Dec-10 23:15:45

I look older than Justin biebers mum.

Smileypeeple Fri 03-Dec-10 23:17:33

Luckily i have no new hair photos or I would.

I once posted a picture of myself in a bikini for opinions.

I am needy.

Jajas Fri 03-Dec-10 23:17:50

Oh is that who he is <blank look>.

Seanbonbon, I think you must be watching last weeks grin! Even I know Bette Midler and believe you me I'm utterly crap with famous people.

Poo, I thought I was on the old gimmers thread but that's somewhere else.... <pootles off>

judasisacarrot Fri 03-Dec-10 23:19:26

i just go with ethe knoweledge i lok like shite.

if others are more impressed at my appearance than i am then thats a bonus.

judasisacarrot Fri 03-Dec-10 23:20:24

oh i will tell the truth.

post a before and after and i;ll tell you if you look like a dog or not

Smileypeeple Fri 03-Dec-10 23:36:42

I have no current photos but I'll describe and you can give me you're harshest opinions.

I'm 40, 5 ft 4 inches, weigh 9 1/2 stone, have biggish boobs, 32 F cup, no waist no hips no arse, flabby arms, short but muscular legs ( oh god this is worse than I though but all true), I have botox so no major wrinkles, pale pinkish but sliggtky blotchy skin, short chin lenghth bob with blonde highlights.

So, do I sound hideous?

judasisacarrot Fri 03-Dec-10 23:46:03

you sound like a cross between Johnny Wilkinson and Barbera windsor. but i am sure that is not how you look.

go take a pic and show us.

Describing wont work. if i described myself i'd sound like giant haystacks in a wig but in reality i am frikkin gorgeous wink

ShanahansRevenge Fri 03-Dec-10 23:51:48

Smiley it's how you FEEL notwhat thers think that matters...if you feel better with long hair then grow it. I had mine all chopped after I had DC1 and I instantly felt all "mumsy" I have ridiculously long har again...I'm 38...I dont care if people think it's too old.

I pile it all up, I do a little beehive for going out...I have ponytail when I feel youthful (not often!) and I like that I can wear it up or down.

I want botox but am afraid! Does it hurt? Can you tell? As the parts you have it stil move? I have a frown line and a cats bum line whichI hate..can they do thecats bum line with botox?'s about you I know but I dont know anyone who has Botox!

Smileypeeple Fri 03-Dec-10 23:51:53

grin I shouldn't have asked.

I'm certainly not taking a picture now, right now I look like Reg from corry long ago, in a dressing gown. Any pics would have to be make up hair done and then if I still look like Johnny wliko in drag I have accpet the worst.

Smileypeeple Fri 03-Dec-10 23:56:03

Botox is great, Ive only had the deep trench between my eye brows done as it made me look permanently angry. I've kept the soft horizontal frown lines and crows feet so I look natural and can still move forehead apart from getting vertical frown in the centre.

It doesn't make me look younger I don't think, just a bit fresher and less like I'm going to punch the wallgrin.

It doesn't hurt, much, a few quick pricks is all.

Smileypeeple Fri 03-Dec-10 23:57:28

Judas who are you?

indiechick Fri 03-Dec-10 23:58:51

I'm wearing thermal leggins, thermal socks, a vest and waterfall cardigan. It's not a good look, even I admit it. Hubby just cuddled me and told me he loves me.

Smileypeeple Sat 04-Dec-10 00:02:32

Indiechick actually that sounds a good look, like a white stuff catalogue.

I'm wearing very old pyjamas from matalan which have lost their elastic and keep falling down, and my dh's dressing gown, now that's a bad look.

BluTac Sat 04-Dec-10 00:03:53

It doesn't actually matter what you look like, it's how you feel inside that counts.

ShanahansRevenge Sat 04-Dec-10 00:04:28

I like the idea of looking less angry! I walked into the Disney shop the other day and the assistant (cast member) came rushing up to me and gasped "Are you alright!?"

Apparently I looked "really stressed and a bit angry" as though I had "been robbed or something"


Smileypeeple Sat 04-Dec-10 00:04:57

Yeah I heard that.

Smileypeeple Sat 04-Dec-10 00:05:57

Then Botox is your friend.

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