Morning everyone!
I am looking for some help and advice here.
I am pregnant with my first baby with my boyfriend who has a 5 year old daughter from a previous relationship. Cut a very long story short he has had problems with visitation and unfortunately the relationship he has with the mother of SD is not very good at all. Since we have been together he has had regular contact and everyone has stuck to the dates and times that have been agreed which is great as SD now knows when she will be seeing her Dad.
SD is a really lovely little girl however she doesn’t have any form of routine at home or with us – my partner suffers from Daddy guilt I think and just lets her do whatever she wants eg up at 11pmm_ at night all hyper active and jumping around because all she eats is ‘snacks’. I have brought up the topic of establishing a routine but as her mother I can enforce that if you know what I mean.
This morning my boyfriend and I were talking about what will happen when baby arrives and I asked if there was a possibility that when we had SD for the first time after the birth if she could not stay the night – so we still have her all through the day but at night time she sleeps at home. My reasoning behind it is that I am a first time mum I have so much to learn, I don’t know how I am going to feel and I just want to make sure I am doing the best for everyone involved and that I can rest at night – with her having no bed time I just don’t want her jumping around and disturbing me and baby when she should be asleep! He has not taking it well, he is ignoring me now and stormed out of the house. He saw it as me saying that she can’t come over at all and he can’t see her but that is not what I meant by that at all.
Any one else in a similar situation or have first hand experience they can share? Do you think I am being unreasonable? Will it be ok having the baby and SD there after the birth?
Thank you!
Ps I do know babies come whenever they want and she might no be with us when I give birth and it might not be our turn to have her but I just want to get these things planned out.
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Majella20 · 20/06/2019 09:25
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