I have 2 dsc, we would usually have them every other weekend, they live a 6 hour round trip away, so can't just have them for the evening etc.
My DP has just had major surgery, he is home now recovering but is unable to walk, we have a ds together. I am finding it quite difficult at the moment coping with everything, as usually my dp would get ds ready and take him to nursery, obviously at the moment I am doing this, plus working full time, plus doing everything for DP, and doing all the household stuff, washing, cooking etc. and looking after DS, who is not a great sleeper. So at the moment I am averaging 4 hours sleep a night.
Before my DP went in for surgery he spoke to dsc and his ex to say that he wouldn't be able to have them for a couple of weeks as would be in hospital.
However the ex and my dsil have organised for the dsc to come and stay next weekend which my dp is fine about but I'm not. I usually don't get involved in contact, have never said no, as they come for longer etc. over holidays, I only ask dp tells me what he's arranged.
However I have said that having another two people to look after and clear up after is too much, I am struggling with two, doubling the numbers is going to horrendous. They do nothing when they are here, dp doesn't pull them up on this and will just do it for them, DSS tends to quite rude to me also, which is something we're working on but is frankly something at the moment with everything else I can do without.
I have said that if possible would they mind coming for the day, I am happy to pick them up in the morning, early and drop them home in the evening, ds can sleep in the car, instead of staying as I understand that they want to see there dad.
This has been rejected and i am now being made out to be a massive bitch stopping contact.
Can anyone offer any advice. Am i being unreasonable or is my compromise fair?
Sorry it's so long.
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Busybuzzybumblebee · 22/02/2016 15:34
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