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IndigoBell Fri 27-May-11 17:17:41

Hello everyone smile

How's you week been?

IndigoBell Fri 27-May-11 17:19:46

I've been exceedingly brave and requested a SA.

HT and SENCO not annoyed by me requesting a SA - but they have been annoyed by some of the blunt direct emails I have sent them blush

And I feel really stupid doing it. No way DD will get one.

She doesn't even need one. She's going to catch up over the summer holidays grin

IndigoBell Fri 27-May-11 17:20:44

DS (Y5) had the talk from school about puberty yesterday. It upset him so much he was crying in the bath.... sad

silverfrog Fri 27-May-11 17:21:03

hello smile

it's been a rollercoaster of a week here - going out, not going out, being rescued by the school, and then finishing up with wisdom teeth removal.


am shattered, tbh grin

and half term next week - going to be busy!

IndigoBell Fri 27-May-11 17:22:58

Silverfrog - How's your mouth? Very brave to get your wisdom teeth removed.

Will you ever brave going out again? grin

Ineedalife Fri 27-May-11 17:25:04

Dd3's first half term at the new school completed, it has been fab, she is so much more relaxed and seems to have settled really well.

Her records have finally managed to find their way across from the old school [1 mile away!!] and we are having a meeting with the SENCO to discuss them when we go back.

Dd1 is moving house tomorrow so guess who's been roped inhmm.

Off camping on Sunday for a couple of days, can't waitgrin.

Hope you all have a good one and good luck with the SA indigosmile.

smileANDwave2000 Fri 27-May-11 17:25:35

pretty good ty Indigo why dont you think your going to get one? hope you do good luck.
strange week especially for me everythings going so well its eerie even all the people who are supposed to ring back have leaving me nothing to complain about for a change lol
a good film and early night me thinks .... and time with DH of course

smileANDwave2000 Fri 27-May-11 17:27:56

ive a meeting at school when we go back after the break, the post statement planning meeting , hope it goes ok confused im forever hopefull

IndigoBell Fri 27-May-11 17:32:16

Indigo why dont you think you're going to get one

- Because they're like gold dust
- Because DDs got no behaviour problems
- Because her learning difficulties aren't bad enough
- Because she's not that bad
- Because she's made some progress
- Because I don't have an EP report saying she needs one

(It's taken me a year to get up the guts to put in the request grin)

smileANDwave2000 Fri 27-May-11 17:43:39

dont worry indigo they said all that to me too the barstewards but your still right to request and again if they say no till they back down you go girl , i was told the same and fobbed off but i did it in the end and you will too have faith

silverfrog Fri 27-May-11 17:46:19

mouth ok, thanks - been better, but been much worse overt he last few months. it wasn't a case of me being brave - the teeth had to go! the one causing the most problems was growing sideways, so the top of the molar was growing into the molar next to it, causing huge pressure all along my jaw. at the same time, this also meant that the roots were growing straight down into the main jaw nerve, which meant simultaneous toothache in all teeth in the right hand side of my mouth shock

so, much better now, with only the piddling after effects of an op to cope with grin <she says, with the long-lasting local anaesthetic not having worn off yet!>

we are revisiting our nanny position. it didn't work out when I tried beofre, and it has taken me this long to get my head around trying again....

well done on the SA application smile - even if you don't get a statement for dd, it will force a thorough review, and may well end up recommending other strategies etc.

signandsmile Fri 27-May-11 17:53:22

Hi all, had TAC/statement review this week, and it was fine! grin school continue to be fabbily fab. ( sorry if that rubs in for anyone having crappy school stuff.)

week been head less chook, but all went well, until this aft when I fell over twisted ankle and am now sat on sofa all strapped up and wincing sad

hopping for half term! hmm

ah well, otherwise all ok.

madwomanintheattic Fri 27-May-11 17:54:28

i have had a good week. grin
decided to try enuresis alarm with ds1 (again - about the third time but haven't bothered in a year or so) and he is So Much More Cooperative. i am chuffed to ribbons. we used to have to literally fight him to the bathroom and spend hours trying to coerce him to wee, but this week when the alarm went off, by the time i got to his room, he was out of bed and on his way to the toilet. grin

and, and <whispers, because it might be one-off and i don't want to jinx it> last night he was dry. dry, i tell you! first time ever. normally he swamps sheets, duvet and pillow through the pull-ups. grin

<studiously ignores daytime continence issues>

and i went out for lunch yesterday with a girlfriend for the first time in a hundred or so years. grin

but it did snow overnight. hmm it always snows at the end of may in reality, but i've just taken the winter tyres off the car, and this time last year i came off the road in a spring storm...

i've also taken the plunge and sold dd2's three-wheeler/ bike trailer. i'm still not absolutely convinced about this one. but her mobility has been really good recently, and she was outgrowing it anyway. we've still got the wc if nec, but it seems to be a huge comfort blanket that i've tossed off. bit scary.

IndigoBell Fri 27-May-11 17:56:53

even if you don't get a statement for dd, it will force a thorough review, and may well end up recommending other strategies etc.

I hope so. I really do.....

At the very least I hope it gets her seen by a diff EP......

silverfrog Fri 27-May-11 18:13:32

when was she last seen by the EP?

and that was an LA EP, wasn't it? any recommendations made? did school folow those?

I reckon you shoudl eb able to request a different one, since your dd has already seen one and outcomes were hardly inspiring, but usually EPs are assigned to various schools, or by alphabetical order of caseload, etc - so you might end up with LA assigning the same one...

madwoman: congrats on the dry night. you must have been over the moon (and your ds too!) good news that he is being more cooperative too smile

LeninGrad Fri 27-May-11 18:17:06

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justaboutWILLfinishherthesis Fri 27-May-11 18:19:29

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asdx2 Fri 27-May-11 18:26:17

Awful week here, Solicitor wrote to LEA giving them until Tuesday to amend the statement. Had an acknowledgement letter and nothing else.
Then today school head phoned me to say LIO was suggesting mediation so that they can "sell" the FE college. How can they suggest a mainstream college with no specialist support when the specialist support he currently has isn't enough?
How can I possibly mediate something which is so ridiculous that there is no middle ground?
Ds left the unit today, with no provision in place for September and I am so scared and worried for him that I can barely stop the tears and the reality of 24/7 care with no sign of an end isn't even registering yet.
Sorry folks miserable post again from me.

smileANDwave2000 Fri 27-May-11 18:28:57

*justaboutWILLfinishherthesis8 glad your review went ok im nervous of DS's post statement planning meeting , how do those go ? what should i be asking for other than them to implement the statement obviously as the whole process takes so long there are a couple things i dont think will be necessary now 8 months later IYSWIM but i guess thats the point of them

cankles Fri 27-May-11 18:29:22

Hello, all just wanted to pop in and say hello. We find out which school ds1 gets into tomorrow so hyper/stressed/headless chickenish. However, glad the teeth have come out, good luck with Statement and excellent for the dry night! x

madwomanintheattic Fri 27-May-11 18:30:43

silverfrog - daytime still pending and obv more of an issue. lovely to see a glimmer of light re night though. you know i was dreading it. grin

graciousenid Fri 27-May-11 18:35:21

this is just a rant

(have had the shittiest week - completely let down by tutors, one has gone awol for no apparent reason the other had a huge safety lapse with ds that allowed him to run into a dual carriageway road & was very nearly killed - I am very, very close to saying that's the end of the ABA because finding good people seems to be utterly impossible.

DH took the day off to cover awol tutor & had similar lapse - ds escaped from house (dh told ds it was time to go out then got distracted by the fucking iphone & didn't notice him get his shoes on open the front door (which is always bolted hmm )). It has got to the point that I feel I can't trust anyone with his care - he has never escaped with me, he walks well, he doesn't tantrum he doesn't run off. I can't do it all on my own though - I'm having a c-section in 3 weeks, I am incredibly stressed & exhausted (if I can't sort out tutor issues dh won't be able to come to birth).

DS is crying every time I take him to nursery - saying he needs me & he misses me - I need that time that he is there for my sanity - I know he is safe if not in the most educationally effective environment.

Had big SALT/consultant meeting re his dire receptive language results - both are perplexed since functionally his understanding is so much better than the test suggest - even in novel situations. He is so conversational & socially appropriate - I don't want to start 'teaching to the test' because experience has shown that the more we do that the less spontaneous & more withdrawn he becomes. Both have suggesting that we do more schedule based work which I really, really really, don't want to do - ds has no routines or problems with flexibility I do not want to introduce the idea that we have a set schedule at all.

He has totally kicked-off with the toilet training - everyone says he should be able to do it, but he can't and it is so stressful - he says he hates the toilet & he won;t ever sit on it now. He wee'd on the floor this morning because he was angry with me - I feel like we're creating problems rather than solving them.

On the plus side - he stated asking why questions)

God I'm tired.

madwomanintheattic Fri 27-May-11 18:36:57

lenin, is he on any meds - seen something similar happen, but can't remember which med it was...

LeninGrad Fri 27-May-11 18:38:29

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LeninGrad Fri 27-May-11 18:39:46

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