DH went to state school, state 6th form, worked his butt off, got 7 A's at A Level and went to Oxbridge getting Bsc and MA.
I went to fee-paying school (co-ed), got 2 C's and went to a mediocre regional university (though loved it).
I subsequently taught in state comprehensive schools for 20 years.
DH and I simply cannot agree on DS schooling. DH feels he himself missed out on many opportunities his contemporaries at Oxbridge had, such as all the benefits of private school ed. He wonders what he could have achieved if he's had this start in life (as if 7 A's wasn't enough)! He is therefore passionate about sending DH to private school.
I on the other hand am passionately pro state ed, and co-educational / mixed. I think our DS will get a real richness of experience from his upbringing with us as conscious parents who encourage him to do lots of activities, travel etc, and that the social benefits of attending comp with a more inclusive range of young people will make him a more rounded person (like my husband is!)
I believe my DH is brilliant because of his state ed and not in spite of it. He believes he missed out and does not want that for our son.
We are in good humour but absolutely at deadlock! We are joking about using DC2 as an experiment and sending one (mine) to state and one private (his) and then placing bets. Jokes obviously!
Please help! How on earth do we ever find a compromise or solution to this which has been going on for years!
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NW11985 · 27/03/2018 21:21
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