DH goes out twice a week with friends who are on the most part single and childless. He gets very drunk, often culminating in waking me up. He has even got himself in some bad situations as a result, such as being mugged twice. We have been together for getting on for 20 years and have 2 pre school age DCs. He has always gone out alot and thinks he is doing me a great favour by reducing down to twice a week since the DCs were born . He says its stress relief for him. From my point of view, my primary concern is his health and the affect on our family. I think he is a very poor role model for the DCs (DS already asks if daddy is in the pub!). I also resent staying in alone twice a week including every single bloody friday night. I have tried talking to him about his health and suggesting taking up a sport for stress relief instead but its like talking to a brick wall. We fell out about all this recently after he got very badly drunk and I found him in a pool of vomit. He was very regretful and made all the right noises about change. But still it remains the same. Other than this we have a good relationship. I dont think he is disloyal and we are happy. I notice when I mention his habits to my SAHM friends I get lots of looks as if to say "my husband woudl never do such a thing". Would this bother you or do you think I am making too much out of it? Anyone been through similar and got any great words of comfort?
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