I will try to be brief.
I worked my butt off in my 20s and 30s and built a successful business that kind of runs itself now - I work 3 long days a week.Very stressful, but only 3 days. Now in late 40s
DH and I have been tog 15 y , 3 kids. I had made a lot of money when we met. He had debts which I paid off.
He has never had a decent job. Was a kind of default househusband when kids young. (ie my job paid all the bills - ha had no job)
He had part time job for 5 years, took voluntary redundancy
Great with kids, ok at house stuff. He watches a LOT of telly We rumble along fairly happily. Sometimes less so. Everything I earn goes in a joint account which he freely spends
I am pretty easy going, he is very uptight.
I recently went on one of those examine your life type weekends (not my thing but a friend of friend dropped out and i took her place). Now I feel a lightbulb has gone on in my head and I feel like a mug and a meal ticket.
For the first time I am really questioning the reationship based on the financial foundation. I realise ours is an exact transposition of many husband/ wife set ups and I would never question the typical SAHM mum's position.
But I am feeling taken for a ride
I have changed a couple of details to protect the innocent
HELP
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would you be happy for your dh not to work in the following circumstances?
hambler · 22/07/2009 23:12
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