I have been chatting to a man on a dating website and spoke on the phone on Monday. He said he'd call next week to arrange a date.
Anyway, this evening I got a text saying something like ...'this is my email address...see you tomorrow', I texted back saying 'I don't think this was meant for me?' expecting him to pretend it was even if it wasn't or something similar but he texted back 'no sorry that wasn't meant for you, I'll call you next week!'
Mutt, I wouldn't expect him not to see other people but I would have expected a bit more subtlety. I mean he could have replied 'no it was meant for you but I meant I'll call you tomorrow not see you tomorrow'. I'm sure that's what I would have done but maybe that's because I'm newish to the online dating thing and can't imagine (yet) seeing more than one man at a time (or at least owning up to it!)
imo it shows that he cant remember who is who, by sending it to the wrong person
there are men who think they can say the same stuff to the same women, then sit back and see who replies
they dont care who replies they just want a reply
from my experience, based on what susia is saying, he sounds like that
i am not naive enough to think anyone i wa talking to was not talking to anyone else, but if they cant get it right in whom they send their arrangements to, then i consider that to be someone who is just casting large net to see who they can grab
I met my lovely DH through internet dating. My advice would be if you have any concerns about the man, then NEXT. This one sounds like a player and as you say, yes no one expects him not to be dating other people, but common courtesy costs nothing.
This happened to me once. Someone I had arranged to see rang me and asked if I was someone else. I was really shocked but then didn't see the warning signs and went ahead and met him. After seeing each other for a couple of months he then started telling me about the other dates he had been on recently.
Diva that's just not true I'm afraid. If you use dating website it's quite common practice to meet lots of people throuhg it, and get to know a number of people at once until one of them takes your fancy or you decide if anyof them a re suitable for relationshp material.
Whenever I've used dating websites I've met quite a few people around the same time and arranged dates with lots of men in the same week. What's wrong with that? Nothing.
I know it would have been dishonest but I would have expected him to try to bluff his way out.
I almost met him once before but it got really complicated to make the arrangement at the time and it didn't happen. The trouble for me is that being a single parent and therefore having to get a babysitter means that I have to meet someone close to where I live as my babysitter will only babysit between 7.30 and 11pm so travelling far is difficult. He lives about 45mins from me and doesn't have these complications. Anyway, have explained this to him on the phone as I have with other dates (who were fine about it) and it sounded like for him it'd be hard work.