I live with my husband and 3 year old daughter. After the born of our daughter my husband changed and started to be abusive emotionally and physically. First time he hit me when our daughter was about a year old. He threw phone in my face so my nose started bleeding. My daughter witnessed it. He says it was accident. Then after that it has happened several times, he has hit me with the shoe or anything he could get hold of on that moment of anger. Most of the times my daughter has witnessed it and it has been very distressing for her saying daddy hurt mummy. Once at night he tried to hit me but our daughter was sleeping in the bed between us and he accidentally hit her instead. Few months ago I came home from work early and he had left our daughter alone in the bath while he was in the kitchen listening music with headphones on. Also few times I come home from work in the evening he hasn’t asked our daughter is she needs potty all day so she has been holding it all day until I come home. He has many times making fun of my accent as I’m not English, and he mocks and repeats everything I say for hours in broken English. Even when I’m begging and crying for him to stop he doesn’t stop.
This week there has been 2 occasions when our daughter is saying that daddy hurt her. One time I came home from work and she said to me daddy tapped my bum. He admitted it but couldn’t give any reason why he did it. The other time I was at home in the other room she played and accidentally scratched him he got angry and pushed her. She was shaking and crying came running to me. I’ve been suffering for years but I can’t let him not control his anger and hurt our daughter. I’m very stressed and lost lot of weight I go to work every day only spend all day worrying at work if our daughter is ok. He says everything is my fault and I provoke him.
Where do I start and should I report him? I have no family in UK and don't have any help with childcare.
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