DD and I had been in the bathroom brushing her hair, she is 12. We come out and she goes into her room and I sit on my bed.
DP comes in and says is everyone finished in the bathroom, I'm going to have a shower.
Now there is me, DD12, DS15 and DS8 in the house. So I havent a clue if anyone else wants to use the bathroom so I mimes mind reading and said well I dont know, just give them a shout.
So he starts shouting at me that I am being snotty and I knew he meant are DD and I finished.
I am a bit like WTF? I wasn't being snotty, flippant maybe but honestly how do I know wether teenagers are wanting to use the bathroom, its a small house, from where he was stood he could have shoutef, does anyone need the bathroom and they would have answered.
So he storms off downstairs and sits there for half an hour waiting for me to apologise, I was sat upstairs thinking, hmm that was odd, I am sure he will come and apologise when he calms down.
Well I didn't grovel in my alloted half an hour so he went home. Then spent hours texting me how I was snotty and he is not being spoken to like shit and I should accept responsibility. I apologised that I came across snottily, reassured him that it wasn't my intentions at all and said that I was confused how it had kicked off. I apologised several times but he wouldn't let it drop.
Then he accuses me of having other men round because I thought we had watched a film together, the film was released in 2009 so actually I must have watched it with my ex, but because I thought it was him I must have watched it recently and therefore am having other men round to watch films.
Anyway in the end I said I am tired of arguing and I am going to sleep.
This morning he sends me a message saying can we just start again, I am tired of arguing.
I said no I don't think we should just pretend nothing happened, because the same thing happened last week and I bit my tongue and swept it under the carpet and it's not a healthy way to have a relationship.
So apparently I have ended the relationship. Thats it its over, because my options are pretwnd it never happened or split up.
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