She’s in her 70s, I’m 50, and it’s taken me a lot of self help reading to notice her behaviour towards the other people in my life.
For example, I have several close friends but the two that she absolutely doesn’t like and hasn’t got a good word to say about, are the two that are my most supportive and accepting. They love me for me and I have never felt like I’ve ever been in any way lacking when I’m with them. And I love them dearly too. My mother rarely sees me with them but always says she thinks they are sly and not genuine.
My husband. Our marriage is on the rocks due to in part his drinking and money issues. We were very happy when we first got together and yet my mother slagged him off constantly, no matter what he said or did for me. It was never enough, he was lazy, slovenly, flashy, selfish. Fast forward and now that he really IS acting like an arse, he can literally do no wrong and our problems are apparently all my fault.
WTF is that all about? It’s 3am and I can’t sleep and I’m knocked over by this realisation. Can someone help me understand/articulate what’s going on? I can’t see the wood from the trees so please spell out to me what may appear obvious!
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I’ve just noticed this about my mum but I don’t know what to make of it.
ExShield · 26/05/2020 03:10
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