Hi all,
I just want some plain and honest opinions here. Probably sound childish to some but here goes...
My DH has gone away today with an ex work colleague to a wedding for the day (someone they used to work with). He will be home late late tonight. Anyhow this has been planned for a while that he would be away Easter Sunday.
My grandma (my mums mum) has been saying for the past few weeks “Oh since your DH is away for Easter me and your mum should come over to yours for a take away, and it will also be 2 years that weekend that your grandad passed away (my mums dad)”. I said yeah okay, so they agreed to come up to mine however nothing was ever set in stone (as in the exact time they would come over).
So I thought the plan was my mum, gran and sister (who still lives with my mum) was to come over to mine and see my 2 DC’s (aged 3&6) and chill out with a takeaway.
So Easter Sunday is here, my DC’s stopped with my mum last night so me and DH could go out. She dropped them home this morning and DH was getting ready for the wedding. My mum goes “shall we still come over for a take away tonight?” And I was like yeah sure I don’t mind. Then she goes “okay do I have to bring your nan though ?” - she said it as a sarcastic joke; she finds my Nan annoying as she repeats herself a lot.
Anyhow I went out today with my 2 DC’s and my sister. I said “r you coming over tonight with mum and gran?”. She said yes. After we went out I dropped my sister back home to my mums house (5pm) and went inside. I shouted up to my mum “are you still coming over later as I’m going home now to get boys bathed”, she replied “what are you on about we haven’t got anything planned?”. I said “what are you on about we’ve had it planned ages that you and gran are coming over to mine for takeaway?”, she replied “nothing was ever set in stone and we didn’t agree times. I went round to your nans earlier and she didn’t mention it, she has had a whisky now so she isn’t going to want to venture out and I also can’t be arsed anyway”. So I replied “oh, great, nice one, so much for family, see you then” and stormed back to the car and went home.
So she made out like nothing was ever planned despite talking to me about it when she dropped my DC’s home that morning at 9am. Can I just mention her mother always does this (their relationship isn’t the best), constantly says stuff then pretends she didn’t say it. I’m hoping this isn’t the start of it because I’m furious.
Anyhow, when I got home I text her (i was angry). I text saying: “I've just asked DH & he confirmed you were on about coming over to mine tonight when you dropped DC’s off to me this morning. Why the hell do you say stuff then just pretend you never said it making it out like I'm crazy?! I'm livid.”.
Maybe I shouldn’t have text her. Her reply was - “Well if u want to pick gran up for 8 then that's fine u can come here if u want”
I replied - “Honestly I do not want too, you just made out like I made it all up and that you hadn't said anything - exactly what she does”
My mum replied - “Your gran did not mention it stop texting now just call me if u got anything to say” (my mum hates texting)
I then replied - “Honestly I'm absolutely fucked of completely at you! You went on like I had made it all up. She won't have forgotten because she was telling me it was the anniversary of grandads death - she was probably waiting to see if you would say anything and you didn't.”
Her response - “If u want to pick her up and come her then you can. Let me know but don't text me any more shit. Or your sister can just bring me and your gran to yours let me know. Do you want to arrange anything yes or no.”
My reply - “I am not arsed - just the way you went about it all has really peed me off”
Mum replied - “yes or no ffs. I'm trying to sort this and you won't answer your phone. I’ll get your gran to just come mine don’t worry about it”.
I replied - “Why you getting Gran to go yours ? Like you said she didn't mention anything”.
Mum - “Are u gonna answer the phone or just be an idiot about this”
I didn’t answer her call. She then text me going “That's it I'm done.” and blocked my number !!!!!!! Can I just say my mum is 54.
She eventually unblocked my number as I tried to call her several times. She answered my call an hour later and she was in the pub. I was like oh ok so your definitely not coming mine now then - and she was like “well have you spoke to gran ?” I said no have you? And she said no. I said call her then.
My mum called me back eventually and goes “gran doesn’t want to do anything tonight, we will do something Tuesday”. I just said yeah I’ll see, bye.
So basically I think my mum forgot about her own dad’s death anniversary (idk maybe she didn’t) and had a better offer and went to the pub. Either way I’m still so angry. She’s supposed to be my mum??
Well done if you made it to the end of my thread.
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Easter drama with my mum - who is wrong here ?
AdviceNeeded3282 · 21/04/2019 20:11
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