I have 2 lovely grown up sons who both have girlfriends. I love both girls to even though are very different personalities. One is very chatty outgoing and the other very quite and shy. They have been dating about 3 years now but the past year and a half I feel like I’m walking on eggshells in my own house. For some reason the girls just don’t get along and the atmosphere when we are all together is terrible! I feel like I’m just stuck in the middle. Family meals and Christmas have got so bad my youngest and his quite girlfriend tend to make excuse after excuse to avoid being together. It hurts me so much as I feel my son is missing out. I treat all of them exactly the same way but the awardness when all 4 of them are together is just getting worse. I have tried talking to try find out about the rift between the 2 girls but I think they are just complete opposite and just don’t like each other. I’ve tried explaining to my sons they don’t have to be best of friends as you can’t help who you like or dislike but I just want everyone to be civil. I don’t want it to get to point where I can only have them round on separate occasions. My 2 sons get along so well but when all together you can cut the atmosphere with a knife.
It was so bad last week my eldest son spoke to them saying we can’t carry on like this as it not fair on mum and he gave them both opportunity to speak to say if there is a problem or if any one has upset each other please say but the pair of them just kept quite . I then got confronted a day later from my youngest saying it’s made things 100 times worse. I explained that I can’t be made to feel uncomfortable in my own home and how we try to get them involved and invite them for dinner ect but they never want to get involved so I’m just left at a loss of dispare. I haven’t stopped crying and feel like the family is falling apart. My son appologized and said he will try and make more of an effort and get more involved but now I’m worried they only be doing it as feel obliged to and I will still worry if they feel awkward being here together as the 4 of them.
Sorry I’m waffling on now I know but just feel so unhappy I just want a happy family around me and not the atmosphere and awkwardness I’ve had past year.
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Both my sons girlfriends don’t get along and it’s causing terrible atmosphere
Jo359 · 23/01/2019 23:49
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