I’m 29 my boyfriend is 32. My boyfriend and I have been together 8 years, living together 3 years, no marriage or kids. My boyfriend works mainly with women and frequently tells me about things related to them or if he’s been for lunch with one or more of them. No issues from me. He also used to have a good female friend that he had lunches with at his old job. Again no issue.
Around November I noticed he was checking out repeatedly a random girl online. Didn’t say anything but decided I would monitor everything. I noticed he was repeatedly searching for this girl on Instagram and on the web. Turns out she works with him but he’s never ever mentioned her. She’s single and 28. She has never private messaged him and they don’t have each other’s phone numbers. But I found the frequent stalking weird so decided to confront him today.
Turns out they have been going for lunches alone together twice a week for two months and have been on a few walks together during work. He says he gets on really well with her but claims he doesn’t have feelings for her. He can’t explain why he’s never ever mentioned her name, let alone the lunches when he tells me about other women he is friends with and lunches with. He cannot explain the stalking just says he doesn’t know.
How do I move forward
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Boyfriend going for secret lunches at work
katy78 · 16/01/2019 13:35
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