hi there, I need to admit first and foremost that I AM feeling sorry for myself and have been crying for the last 1 hour so please please do forgive if i'm just being stupid and boring.
I need to ask you something: I am a doctor and my husband is a consultant in the NHS. i left NHS some years back in order to join industry. I did so as I was a bit disillusioned with health-care and also i wanted a change. I have 2 adolescent children and they are brilliant. At the moment i'm ok successful and trying my best to progress. I am earning 120k a year, do 99% housework, when I go away on work trip I cook for all the days and keep separate containers of my hubby's lunch in the fridge. But very regularly and whenever he gets a chance hubby really belittles me and derogates me in front of my children and whenever possible in front of my in-laws saying I am a failed professional and useless and that my job is worth nothing. When my mother-in-law got diagnosed with cancer it was me who took her to doctors, tests etc. I have always looked after my in-laws. It really really hurts. He anyway takes me for granted and shouts whenever something doesn't work out at home, if there are no clean clothes etc. He refuses to any housework himself saying he didn't grow up to be a doctor to be doing effing housework. at the moment I am NOT getting anything but abuse from him and crying myself to sleep every night. I have thought of leaving but that's difficult as my children don't want it and pleads with me to stay on. I can't just carry on like this any more. I have NO friends.....he calls me a "miserable git"...and refuses to socialise so I have had to lie when friends invite and call and excuse myself from attending. so I have none left. my only hope is online friends maybe. WHAT CAN I DO ?? please please help....I am stuck and the unfairness and cruelty is driving me insane. I do not want to give up and do what's right for my children: maybe carry on like this till they are more grown and in university. I want to be strong and be successful and be a good human being and do my duties. BUT WHAT CAN I DO TO DEAL WITH HIS UNFAIRNESS ??? PLEASE HELP ...IT'S URGENT
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