Hey guys bit of a long winded one but I'm really hoping for some advice as I'm stuck on what to do.
I have been with my boyfriend 6 years he is polish and I am English so once a year we go to Poland to see his family and once a year they will come and stay with us . They have always been so lovely to me but every time they come over they speak in polish which is fine but when I'm in the room I feel they should speak English as their English is very good and my polish is awful. I have tried to learn but its a very difficult language to grasp. so when I'm there and they speaking polish i feel very excluded from the conversations . The last time his sister and her fiancé came over the three of them sat speaking in polish while I was in the room so I couldn't join in with them my boyfriend knows this upsets me as I have told him many times before. so while his sister went up stairs I told him I was going to my sisters house as I felt uncomfortable. while I was gone of course they had asked where I was I thought he would have just made up an excuse but he didn't. i was really embarrassed as I didn't mean to cause any conflict. when I came back they had all had dinner and were watching tv and they all ignored me so I just went up to bed this continued for the rest of their holiday. on the night before they were due to go home my boyfriend and I got into an argument and he blamed the whole thing on me and said I should just put up with it as its only a few days a year. and his sister came out crying and told me I shouldn't be with her brother as I make him unhappy this got a bit heated between the two of us but I apologised even though I don't believe I should have. I still 7 months later feel very bitter about the argument.
So my dilemma is she getting married next month I have been invited to the wedding but I haven't spoke to them since this fight and feel embarrassed awkward and bitter. His mum keeps asking my boyfriend what I'm wearing so they are expecting me to go but I have been telling him for months I'm not going to the wedding. my boyfriend is telling me I should go as it would be embarrassing for him if I didn't and I so get that and I wouldn't want him to have to go alone and be embarrsed as I haven't gone with him but I just feel really awkward as I haven't seen them since this argument and I'm not sure who she told . please guys what would you do. I don't feel confident enough to go but at the same time I don't want them to hate me if I don't go.
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tiar · 20/05/2018 16:30
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