A year ago I left my husband after 10 years. In the last few months I’ve been in touch with a guy I’ve known for many years, since way before I got married. He was the one I always had feelings for but the timings were never right... so I’ve never been in a relationship with him, but there are lots of feelings, on both sides. He’s told me he regrets us never getting together. We talk or text most days.
Basically it’s been too soon after separating to get involved in anything new, but in my mind, given time, I’d have been interested in starting a relationship with this guy.
He told me today he has been offered the job of his dreams. In Sydney.
He’s not decided whether to accept, and wants my advice.
Do I tell him that if he stays I want a relationship with him? Or is it totally unfair to put that on him, and leave him to make his decision without me clouding his judgement?
If I say nothing he will take the job. He would be silly not to. And that would be the end of any chance for the two of us.
What would you do, Mumsnet??
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Should I tell him, or let him go?
DaffsAreOut · 25/02/2018 18:22
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