Just that really... need to rant... not sure if my husband went to the doctors he would be diagnosed with some form of mental illness... I do feel he may be depressed due to years of bullying by his father... but besides that he is extremely useless around the house and just in his own life really... he holds a job at a friends company... so he works and brings home wages. but he is not confident person so i know he would find it extremely hard to find a job on his own accord.
He has never been good at finances... so much so that was in major debt which I found out about only after we got married... we spent our first two years wages as a couple paying off his debts... so I took hold of financial reins... he still went and wasted gbp 6000 on a course that he never completed... so that was good money down the drain.
He never helps with house work... I have to speak to him like he is a child and ask him to do something minimum 5 times... even then he forgets to do things.
I look after cooking cleaning shopping household admin... i do everything for 2 dc pick up drop off... I visited 7-8 schools recent weeks... he showed no interest to visit and never even asked about how the school visits went... he has no clue about our life, financial, children medication plus education... i just wonder what would happen if anything were to happen to me.
He has got it so easy and I know women will say let him do stuff... but I feel his brain just can’t process certain things... been married 12 years so i know.. i leave his monthly bill preparation with him... even then I have to check it every single month for the last 12 years and he still makes mistakes.
How can his life be so easy...i can never switch off and often feel frustrated that there is no one to look after me. I think I feel very unhappy as this problem has become so much more difficult after arrival of dc... they are young 2 and 4...so I have a lot on my plate... and him not pulling his weight is really bringing me down.
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