The other day DH and I argued because I flipped out / screamed loudly when DS first spilt his drink, then smashes the glass cleaning up. It had been a long day trying to work from home and look after two kids and a dog. The stress has really getting to me, long half term, full time job. So he’s telling me to calm down and all that,I say it's easy for you but you’re not perfect either, reference what happened with DS 2 yrs ago –[then, DH grabbed DS so hard round leg when arguing at bedtime that it left a mark, teacher saw it and school called the police. They had to interview everybody, police let off with verbal caution and agreed it was out of character, but took ages for DS to recover mentally, worst thing that’s ever happened to us/me (including divorce]. So back to other day, I mention this, and he goes very silent and instead of talking about everything loudly says very seriously, to come into the kitchen and that if I ever mention it again he will leave. We have been to counselling, more times than I care to tot up, he is complicated and was neglected as a child and its all very stressful sometimes, 10 yrs we just celebrated but it sa rollercoaster as he cannot talk about his feelings very ell, not god forbid admit he has a temper. What to do? I can’t be blackmailed into not talking about what he has done wrong in the past, or can i? Then again read post here and sounds like threatening to leave is a regular relationship tactic… any advice on how to handle with him welcome
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DH threatening to leave if I ever mention fact he hit our DS
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semirurallife · 02/11/2017 05:55
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