And wait until you're in your 50's ! I swear you become invisible
GinisLife - Im 54. I met OH in an "eyes met across the room" situation when I was 49. My 1st real date after years with a cheating dickhead then 3 years on my own. I was totally disillusioned, never going to date again, read all the surveys re nigh on impossible to meet a decent man after age 50. But when I saw OH I knew Id have to meet up with him again
The dating scene seems full of evasive and disingenuous people
I agree with this OP. I tried OLD twice before meeting OH and thought never, ever again. I hear there are good stories but the friends I have who have been OLD for ages, go through hell. Some really hurrtful situations. Older men with paunches who want young women. Entitled men. Men who ghost. Men who don't actually seem to like women at all and are likely also reading the surveys out there so think a woman should think herself lucky to get a man
Then I read on other threads about women who are sitting there waiting on a man to text or Whatsapp I think omg, WHY are these men being allowed to get away with such lazy communication..whilst women are analyzing it all in will he won't he fashion, and others are saying well! He could be busy! Its only been 2 weeks! Instead of saying look, eff it he can't be bothered so move on.
I don't think human beings handle the perception of "too much choice" well. eg in online dating men simply don't know when to stop - so they don't stop/never really make a choice. Chocolate box mentality is rife. After all its easy nowadays, isn't it. I think there could be good men online but its 1 in every 100 rejects I wouldn't want to put in the time to sift
I wish OLD would be binned. Its skewering mindsets, making people think its representative of real life. It isn't. & its also givin tricksters too much free reign.
Read somewhere OLD is good for people who don't have time to meet a significant other - but for me if you've not got time to meet someone then you don't have time for a relationship. Similarly if you have commitments that mean you can't get out much ie young DCs then you also run the risk of being the convenient always at home booty call,
You need a thick skin and 100% self-esteem to cope well with OLD. I think meeting irl is better and its entirely possible if you put yourself out there, even via joining a meetup group and getting to socialise in different places.
If me and OH split, after a while I would be open to date again. I wouldn't do as I've seen many women do - hop up on their self-made shelf because of what a man's done, whilst said man isn't putting any aspect of his life on hold for his ex. You do have to do the self-care thing, its really important. But if you know you would like a relationship then its a case of getting out there