Is this weird behaviour?

[Blondehairblackroots]

My newish dp came downstairs and said to me out of the blue ( he has just moved in ) I just found a used condom under the bed that was not his
My bedroom is not immaculate but there is no way there was a used condom there , plus I hadn't had a partner anyway .
I said no way and he just said I wanted to see what u would say , and kinda smirked
I think it is odd behaviour but would like some views

[beesandknees]

That's not odd. It's fucking scary.

Why are you with him?
How long have you been with him?

[BubblingUp]

Kick him out. End the relationship. This is the beginning of a nightmare.

[Biscuitsbathroom]

Maybe he thinks you're cheating and is trying to catch you out? Weird, whatever is it!

[LoverOfCake]

Gaslighting behaviour. Get rid.

[Onecallaway]

Yes very weird. He is testing you and next time you might not pass.

[Sugarpiehoneyeye]

Let this be a warning !
Red light OP ... lose him.

[BewareOfDragons]

And out he should go!

That's not funny. It's scary. You have made a mistake ... correct it quickly ... get him out.

[pog100]

If you didn't react extremely badly to that you need to examine your boundaries of what is acceptable. It is relationship ending territory.

[Blondehairblackroots]

He moved in a few months ago
it was out of blue , I was shocked but wanted to dismiss it but it's bugging me
Thanks for replies

[Blondehairblackroots]

He also turned up unexpectedly are a local wine bar , where I kill an hr with a coffee and read while I wait fir ds to finish cubs
He said to check I was on own !!!!
Actually as I'm writing this I'm getting it

[Allabitmuchisntit]

Manipulation disguised as a "joke"
This is how it starts.

Get him out of your home.

[tygr]

Bloody hell.

That’s not good.

[HerOtherHalf]

He's a controller. It will get worse. Get out if you have any sense.

[Biscuitsbathroom]

He's a nightmare waiting to happen. Get him out.

[stayanotherday]

Love, get out now please. It's not just odd, it's controlling and game playing.

[chipsandpeas]

red flag here if hes already checking up on you

[stayanotherday]

It's not a joke. It will go on and get worse.

[Annelind]

Blonde your last post confirms what other posters have said. Get rid. ASAP.

[ijustwannadance]

He's either cheating or thinks you are.

Get rid now. It will escalate slowly so you don't notice until you stop going out and realise you are isolated from friends and family.

[Biscuitsbathroom]

How long were you together before he moved in?

[RebelRogue]

If the flags were any more red,they would be bleeding.

[AdalindSchade]

He turned up to check you were alone?!
Fucking hell woman he’s deranged and dangerous. Kick him the fuck out.

[InThisTogether]

Nope OP that's a big red flag for me. I bet as you think of it there are more examples that seemed innocent at the time but are now a little creepy...

[AtrociousCircumstance]

This has actually given me chills. Get him out OP.

[Blondehairblackroots]

@ in this together
Yes there are some other things
But tbh he usually very nice but I do get it

Had to look up ' gas lighting ' and he does have those traits ( some )