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Is this weird behaviour?

(65 Posts)
Blondehairblackroots Sun 08-Oct-17 18:59:54

My newish dp came downstairs and said to me out of the blue ( he has just moved in ) I just found a used condom under the bed that was not his
My bedroom is not immaculate but there is no way there was a used condom there , plus I hadn't had a partner anyway .
I said no way and he just said I wanted to see what u would say , and kinda smirked
I think it is odd behaviour but would like some views

beesandknees Sun 08-Oct-17 19:03:01

That's not odd. It's fucking scary.

Why are you with him?
How long have you been with him?

BubblingUp Sun 08-Oct-17 19:03:02

Kick him out. End the relationship. This is the beginning of a nightmare.

Biscuitsbathroom Sun 08-Oct-17 19:03:26

Maybe he thinks you're cheating and is trying to catch you out? Weird, whatever is it!

LoverOfCake Sun 08-Oct-17 19:05:36

Gaslighting behaviour. Get rid.

Onecallaway Sun 08-Oct-17 19:06:44

Yes very weird. He is testing you and next time you might not pass.

Sugarpiehoneyeye Sun 08-Oct-17 19:07:33

Let this be a warning !
Red light OP ... lose him.

BewareOfDragons Sun 08-Oct-17 19:07:34

And out he should go!

That's not funny. It's scary. You have made a mistake ... correct it quickly ... get him out.

pog100 Sun 08-Oct-17 19:08:25

If you didn't react extremely badly to that you need to examine your boundaries of what is acceptable. It is relationship ending territory.

Blondehairblackroots Sun 08-Oct-17 19:08:36

He moved in a few months ago
it was out of blue , I was shocked but wanted to dismiss it but it's bugging me
Thanks for replies

Blondehairblackroots Sun 08-Oct-17 19:26:25

He also turned up unexpectedly are a local wine bar , where I kill an hr with a coffee and read while I wait fir ds to finish cubs
He said to check I was on own !!!!
Actually as I'm writing this I'm getting it

Allabitmuchisntit Sun 08-Oct-17 19:27:23

Manipulation disguised as a "joke"
This is how it starts.

Get him out of your home.

tygr Sun 08-Oct-17 19:27:37

Bloody hell.

That’s not good.

HerOtherHalf Sun 08-Oct-17 19:28:12

He's a controller. It will get worse. Get out if you have any sense.

Biscuitsbathroom Sun 08-Oct-17 19:28:21

He's a nightmare waiting to happen. Get him out.

stayanotherday Sun 08-Oct-17 19:28:36

Love, get out now please. It's not just odd, it's controlling and game playing.

chipsandpeas Sun 08-Oct-17 19:29:04

red flag here if hes already checking up on you

stayanotherday Sun 08-Oct-17 19:29:42

It's not a joke. It will go on and get worse.

Annelind Sun 08-Oct-17 19:30:11

Blonde your last post confirms what other posters have said. Get rid. ASAP.

ijustwannadance Sun 08-Oct-17 19:32:21

He's either cheating or thinks you are.

Get rid now. It will escalate slowly so you don't notice until you stop going out and realise you are isolated from friends and family.

Biscuitsbathroom Sun 08-Oct-17 19:33:29

How long were you together before he moved in?

RebelRogue Sun 08-Oct-17 19:34:45

If the flags were any more red,they would be bleeding.

AdalindSchade Sun 08-Oct-17 19:35:24

He turned up to check you were alone?!
Fucking hell woman he’s deranged and dangerous. Kick him the fuck out.

InThisTogether Sun 08-Oct-17 19:37:18

Nope OP that's a big red flag for me. I bet as you think of it there are more examples that seemed innocent at the time but are now a little creepy...

AtrociousCircumstance Sun 08-Oct-17 19:39:21

This has actually given me chills. Get him out OP.

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