... On Tuesday my DH and I went to the cinema with my aunt, uncle, 4 cousins and partners for my aunt's birthday. As we went in to the film, my uncle suggested to my DH that he might like to sit on the end of the row.
My DH immediately lost it and told my uncle in no uncertain terms that he was a family member too, why should he be relegated to the end of the row, and wouldn't listen when my uncle said that wasn't what he meant. My cousins tried to mollify him but he was having none of it, and he stormed out. In shock I followed and we went home.
I was in shock at this and felt cross with my DH for creating a scene as I believe he had probably misread the situation as I believed the only reason my uncle had asked him whether he'd like to sit on the end was that he was tall and therefore could stretch out a bit.
On the way to the train my DH sensed that I wasn't in full support of his actions, and he told me I was being disloyal to him for not standing up for him in the cinema (although i hadn't said anything in support of my uncle and had left with him). I said that I thought my uncle hadn't meant to marginalise him but was probably just suggesting he sat there for his long legs (as it would have been really out of character for him to marginalise him like that). He was then even more angry that I had apparently tried to minimise it by providing an excuse for my uncle, and that I always side with the family over him (even though I'm not related to half of them). He's furious that I've apparently chosen my uncle (and by implication my family) over him, and that I found it difficult to believe that my uncle was trying to exclude him from the group. He has told me that he felt abandoned by my lack of support and that effectively our relationship is over.
We've slept (not so much sleeping on my part!) apart for the past 2 nights. I'm devastated as I love him. It's only 7 months since our marriage and we have a 2 year old girl together. what can I do? Everything I say makes it worse. My sister's marriage split last year and I desperately don't want that to happen to me.
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coconuttella · 13/04/2017 06:24
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