Hello first time posting and NC because it was too identifying. I would like to hear if i am in the wrong or not. DH is quite a light sleeper - i am not. the last few months his job has gotten very stressful and he has not been sleeping well to the point it is affecting his health - physical and mental. He is in for 9 and home by half seven, eight or later and often has to work evenings and weekends emailing at home. He is always tired, sleeps in till quite late on weekends, and has to rest sometimes during the day. we have two dc's one at school and i do all the pick up and drop off - recently stopped working but looking for job. i do 90% of cooking, cleaning, washing, shopping and other domestic stuff apart from garden which DH also wants me to help with and ironing which MIL does for him (i do rest). anyway DH has said in order to manage his stress at work etc he needs to go to bed at 10pm - we have argued a no of times already because i dont go to bed earlier enough for him and i keep him awake etc so i sleep in a different room but even then i keep him awake if i dont go at the same time as him. so during the week he wants me to go to bed at 10pm and at whatever time he chooses to go up on the weekend. a few weeks ago he got really cross because i came up at 10.20pm so i promised to go up when he does. often he goes up at 9 and has a bath winds down etc. so i potter and go up for 10ish. Last night i only got to sit down from bedtime routine and cooking my dinner at 9.15 so i didnt want to go up at ten despite my promise. i went up at 10.30 but managed to drop something on our wooden floor and apparently woke him up so now he is cross and says he needs to sleep at 10 and he cant keep having this conversation. i feel like every once in a while he said let it go if i want to go to bed a bit later but i dont think he can accept this. am i wrong? was i disrespectful to not stick to the bedtime he has asked me to follow?
sorry for the long essay but i'd really appreciate others' perspective as i can't work out whats reasonable
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DH setting our bedtime
North79 · 21/03/2017 13:08
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