Never thought I'd be writing this. Thought we were happily married (20 years together with 3 young kids) and were in it for the longhaul. However since turning 40 he's been distant and he finally admitted last night that he's not happy, considers we've grown apart, can't say he's in love with me (says he doesn't know what he feels but can't say he is), can't say he fancies me (same reason given) and when pushed said he didn't think there was anyway of saving us.
Absolutely heartbroken. Can't believe he left it to point of no return (paraphrasing) as opposed to admitting issues earlier so we could try and do something about it.
He seemed shocked that I've asked him to leave. He seemed to think we could continue living together "and see what happens". Now if he still had feelings for me and there were other issues I could see the point of it however surely there's no way back after what has been said?
He swears there's is no ow (I know they always do) but I have no way of actually knowing although up to now have no reason to believe there is/was.
He wants to talk again tonight. He seems to be back pedalling about the situation and I feel it's merely in an attempt to keep his convenient life (me as house keeper and nanny and easy access to kids around the crazy hours he works.
I feel numb and don't know where I go from here
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jerryfudd · 28/02/2017 13:07
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