This is my first post. I was hoping for a female perspective on this. My girlfriend of 8 months is booked to go to Amsterdam with her ex boyfriend for a weekend. She has been friends with him for a long time, maybe 20 years, and they were only together for around 3 months maybe 14/15 years ago. She said that since then they went on holiday to America but this was for a mutual friends wedding. However she said that they had shared a bed previously and nothing happened then They both then got long term relationships so kind of fell out of touch for a while but got friendly again when those relationships broke down. She says she can't remember if they had sex or not when they were in a relationship, says she doesn't think so but possibly once when really drunk. Anyways, they had booked to go to New York over the new year to see the same mutual friend but the trip didn't go ahead as he was sick. This had been planned but not booked before I knew her, and was booked about two months into the relationship.
I wasn't that happy, but didn't want to come across as possessive and jealous so told her I wasn't ecstatic but I understood that she had a life before me and I was ok about it. She did say that she thought he might now have designs on her again but she wasn't interested and if he tried anything she would make sure to tell him she wasn't interested. They were both due to be in New York over New Years and she specifically said she thought he would try and kiss her on New Year's Eve but she would be ready to say no. The other day a few days after her birthday she said that this friend booked her a surprise trip for just the two of them in Amsterdam. He had never bought her a present before, never mind a present like that.
She told Me that this trip was booked and she was going to go. I asked her was it a twin or a double bed and she said she didn't know. I asked her to ask him and he told Her that it was a double as it was the last available at that deal. I said I wasn't happy with either the trip or the sleeping arrangements. She knew I wasn't happy but she didn't say that she would change the sleeping arrangements. She then told him that I wasn't happy and he told her he would change it to a twin room. She says he has since done this.
I'm still not really happy about this trip and am wondering if I am being paranoid. I really love her and she says she really loves me and I do believe that's how she feels about me. But I'm still Not keen on my girlfriend going away for a few nights of drinking , probably drugs and partying with a guy she used to be intimate with. She didn't book it so I can't blame her for that. However, she didn't even ask originally if they would be in separate beds, and I suppose I'm annoyed about that, and she was still going to go even if they had to share a bed. Im still considering my future with her now, and am wondering if I'm over reacting About the whole thing.
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girlfriend going on holiday with her ex
Bigmoc · 08/02/2017 11:49
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