Hi all - I'm a regular member but have NC due to the nature of my question.
Since the birth of our 2nd DC sex in our marriage has taken a turn for the worst but was slipping before then.
Shortly before I got pregnant with my 2nd DC my DH had been looking at porn and being dishonest. Although we quickly sorted it out it left a lasting horrible feeling towards sex with him.
Then since 2nd DC was born I've suffered from PND and my sex drive has all but vanished. However, my DH's behaviour to sex is really getting me down.
I feel I'm constantly being pestered for sex. I'm woken up 2/3 sometimes more times a night being groped, him trying to pull my trousers down and pushing himself against me. It's got to the point where I make sure I face in to the bed to stop him from doing this. I have very young DC and a tiring job and am exhausted by there constant waking. When I approach him about this he is very huffy, says he won't do it again but always does.
He complains that I'm not intimate with him (kissing and cuddling etc) and it's true - I'm not because if it doesn't lead to sex he's moody and makes me feel guilty.
This morning this all came to ahead after a particularly bad night of being woken three times by him coupled with not feeling very well and I told him how annoyed I was. The upshot of the discussion was him telling me not to be surprised if he cheats because I'm not giving him any. Obviously was really upset by this and he later apologised but I feel so hurt.
We don't have sex that often (few times a month) and I feel his pressurising behaviour towards sex just turns me off even more.
Really don't know where to go from here. Would welcome any advice.
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DH attitude to sex getting me down
sexelephantintheroom · 30/12/2016 14:59
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