My FIL has recently died. Since his death we have discovered my in-laws financial state is even worse than we thought, and my MIL is now left with a large amount of debt plus a recent remortgage on their house which she cannot actually afford the repayments for. My DH has therefore decided we are going to give her some money every month to subsidise her. We have young children & live in a moderate sized 3 bed terrace. My MIL lives alone in a 5 bed detached house (same region of the country so similar housing market). We were planning to move to a larger place but this is now on hold. I am really angry about the whole thing & don't really know how to handle it. I have always been very careful with money & when I met my DH helped him sort himself out from slight financial fuck up to more organised money in savings etc.
I have already explained my feelings to DH. He understands but feels he can't leave his mum in the lurch. She has no plans to move & is just going to take the subsidy & continue as she is. I don't really think anyone can help but I can't sleep tonight thinking about it all & can't keep going over it with DH as it just causes arguments.
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Addictedtocustardcreams · 21/08/2016 00:07
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