I just joined up to try and get some advice or words of sense in terms of what might be going on here and hat it might mean in the long run for me.
My boyfriend's Dad sadly passed away quite recently and since this happened I feel like I am losing him.
I tried to be supportive and give space, but I feel so much space has been given that we don't even have a relationship any more. I haven't seen him for weeks.
His behaviour is a bit confusing. He seems genuinely to want to speak to me and he says such lovely things to me that show he feels a lot towards me but he also avoids me and has gone into his shell.
He says things like I deserve someone better and he is no good for anyone right now and all that which is nothing like him and makes no logical sense to me.
I have been pushed away to the point I feel like perhaps our relationship is over, and one minute he says he doesn't want that and the next minute he says defeatist things about me being too good for someone like him.
This is so unlike him, I feel like he is hiding away from me and it's been going on like this for almost three months months and we were only together for three months when this happened so it's been a strange situation, but I love this guy and really want him to come forward and rekindle the connection we had but I worry that maybe the situation has ended us.
He has so much going on in his life now...so much to sort out, huge changes and I realise love takes a back seat but I feel very confused. I feel almost as if he does not want to lose me, but he pushes the other direction.
Any advice?
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I think I am losing my boyfriend after his Dad passed away :(
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gandisupp · 09/06/2016 01:03
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