Hi folks,
Okay so I am a guy on Mumsnet seeking advice from a female perspective on what on earth has just happened to the relationship I was having with an amazing lady...
So for context...6 weeks ago I met the most fun and dynamic lady I have ever known. She is a major ex party girl but who now has 2 kids and the normal responsibilities of every day life. Even with all this she is easily the most attractive, positive and engaging woman I have ever met. Anyway, we met online and we hit it off big time. When we met it person it only continued and over the next 5 weeks we saw each other and communicated non-stop. To my mind it all went quite deep quite quickly but we both have other commitments so tried to keep it at the right level, recognising we both have busy lives involves kids. Anyway, her sexting and pictures she sent me daily were like, well, quite over the top I thought considering we are both in early 40s and its something the kids in their 20s do. Granted, we both have a habit of working out a lot so her pictures were very easy on the eye to say the least! Anyway, her messages made it clear she was up for a relationship and we were talking about plans for seeing each other months ahead from now.
And then after staying over at her house for the first time and having an amazing weekend away together 10 days ago she did a complete U turn. In the space of 4 days she became distant and very little communication. Yesterday I then got the "I'm not sure what I want and need space" line. Well by my age and experience every guy knows what that means - Its polite for Cheerio. Now I never pressured her at all, I never asked her to do anything rash or crazy, I know we were attracted to each other even last time we met.... so to my mind I am at a complete loss what on earth has just happened? Now I know she has her kids and a nasty separated husband floating around in the background but really!? After coming on so strong for weeks and weeks and then giving me the I need space line? If anything she came on stronger than me...did she frighten herself away?!?! I did meet her online so is she just a complete player?
As I say we were only together 6 weeks, all of which were amazing, but it was so short I am sure I will survive being naturally secure in myself. However, I really liked this lady and am completely confused what on earth has just happened? Any ladies got any insights or thoughts I would love to hear them :D
Thanks for reading
Freddie
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Seeking women advice on what just happened to my relationship!?
Freddie2010 · 11/05/2016 16:36
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