I always make the effort to go to anything that my partner invites me to. I like to get to know the people that are important to him and IMO that's something you should do in a relationship.
After inviting my boyfriend to an evening wedding reception 2 months prior (which he agreed to) When I reminded him the day before the wedding, his response was "Do I definitely have to come?". I told him no he didn't but it would be nice if he made the effort, especially as he has already RSVP'd. He agreed begrudgingly but made a big deal of it to the point I almost felt like telling him not to bother. He also booked a cab before the night was over without telling me until it arrived and told me to 'stay and enjoy myself'- he went home at 10.30, this upset me somewhat seeing as I was left alone with a group of 5 other couples (my friends, whose partners made the effort to stay out)
This isn't the first time it's happened and he has told me outright before that 'he has no interest in getting to know my friends'.
His argument was that if I didn't want to come out with his friends he wouldn't have a problem with it and definitely wouldn't want to make me do anything that I didn't want to do.
It was my birthday recently and he even pulled out of my own party (again with all my friends) last minute because he 'wasn't feeling well'.
Amongst many other occasions. One night we both went to the pub where we both had a group of friends there. I made sure I came over to say hello to his friends before making my way out to the garden to join mine. He didn't even come out and say hi and it just made it really awkward as everyone was asking if he was going to come over and say hello (it doesn't take much does it?) He finally did at the end of the night when I passed him on route to the bar and basically had to remind him it would be nice if he could come out even for 5 minutes to be polite.
I know it's silly to compare things like this but you can see the difference when of our 37 mutual friends on Facebook only 2 of them are my friends- all the rest are his that I have made the effort to get to know.
It's just something that really grates on me and I feel like if he cared about me that much he would make an effort to do something to make me happy. AIBU?
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Should I expect my BF to make an effort with my friends?
VIX1307 · 20/11/2015 17:03
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