I've posted on and off for a while now. In brief, DH had an affair last year which we tried to work through. I have zero contact with his family (web of lies he's told due to his own cheating etc which they fell for). They are/were very involved in our lives to my annoyance. January comes and out of the blue I'm issued with divorce papers that DH denies all knowledge of (yes that's right - apparently solicitors just do it off their own back!). This has gone on all year, back and forth, him telling me one thing and doing/telling his parents another.
He then broke down and said he was being made choose - a life with me or a relationship with his parents - pathetic - and you guys gave me some great advice on that.
It transpired that correspondence from his solicitor was being emailed to his parents email account and that on occasions they took it upon themselves to respond directly - this is currently being looked at as a complaint as whilst I'm under no illusion everything is discussed with them anyway, I haven't given permission for my personal details to be sent to them.
Things in general have been "plodding along." - a couple of revised divorce petitions because of errors and I took the bull by the horns and told him the house needed to go on the market. Day to day we still live under one roof - I'm still the idiot that does everything for him and we still do things as a couple - partly to make my life easier while I still have to live there and partly if I'm honest because I still love him.
However, he's making the entire process so difficult. Because he doesn't want to deal with it and because he states he doesn't want this to happen (again I'm under no illusion he's telling his parents something else).
Today we've had a 4th offer on the house - and although its a little under the asking price, its far more than we ever anticipated - so why won't he accept the offer??!!
I can't force him to because although I have an HR1 in place, the house and mortgage were taken out in his name only.
I'm so frustrated because I just want to move on with my life and "fix" myself!
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"Just accept the offer!"
tornandhurt · 09/11/2015 15:48
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