DH and I have been married for 9 years, love each other v much. 75% of the time had a good sex life, loving and passionate.
The rest of the time its difficult, mainly because I suffer with depression and that affects my libido, also because he can be a complete arse at times, eg.losing his temper, calls me names when we argue.
He can be so kind and caring, and I can't say he's a bad husband because he's not, he works 45 hours a week in a physically demanding job to support us. Tells me he loves me every day and listens when I need to cry/rant.
Its his TEMPER that is the problem (he had an abusive childhood but that's another issue).
He complains a fair bit about petty stuff (dishes still in the sink, no milk in the fridge) and has got a bit of a short fuse. He'll shout and swear at me if I speak rudely to him eg.tell him to shut up. Promises me he'll work on it but then just does it again.
The names he calls me are like "bitch" "moron" "twat." I feel really bad and angry when this happens. He always apologises afterwards.
Pressures me for sex (a lot lately) and then if it doesn't happen he sulks. Eg. "I thought we were going to make love tonight" with a sulky tone. Or the old classic; "I don't think you fancy me anymore..." Sulky tone.
Huge turn off in my opinion!
Maybe I need to just get over the fact that he can be an arse and focus on the lovely man he can be most of the time?
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why does DH not realise I'm not going to want sex if he behaves like an arse
AshleyWilkes · 31/10/2015 11:43
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